Is it to soon to be thinking about another baby???

[emmabemmasmom]

Hi

My DD is nearly 8 months old. I love her to bits and she is the most contented little thing. Now that she is kinda nearing the toddler stage, I am really missing the baby times. (I don't know why!)

Everyone keeps telling us not to have more as my DD is so content, because they say our others will be terrors!

I know you are suppose to wait a year between to let your body have a break too. I don't know if this is just my uterus talking and saying to have another now, or what!

What do I do? confused, baby loving mom

do it. i have just had dc3 and want to ttc dc4 by xmas, though it takes me about 6 months always to conceive.

have to persuade the husband first though

Go for it! Im 19 weeks pregnant with dc4 and dd3 is only 8 months old! When this one arrives i will have 4 under 6, i want at least one more and would rather have them fairly close together so that i dont get out of touch and dp is getting no younger

I had my 2 dds 14 months apart. It was really hard, the first year was an endless cycle of nappies, feeds and trying to keep my older dd happy. Now though, they are 3 and a half and 2 and a half and love each other to bits, they play nicely most of the time and I have (almost!!) got my life back!!

I should say that dd2 was a happy surprise, dd1 was 5 months and I was weaning her off the breast and had still not had a period. Go for it, but prepare for "you must be mad" brigade.

xLR

My two are just under 17 months apart, so DD was conceived at round about the stage you are now. It's worked really well. I'm pregnant again now so will have 3 under 4.

I like having them close together- they get on well, sometimes fight, but that is normal.
I took the decision to look after my children myself and have a career break. I'll work school hours when they are older. (I'm freelance mainly from home).

I tried working part time but it is too complicated to sort childcare with the way my projects work.

Being in my late 30's was also a factor in my decision.

I didn't crave the baby thing so much, I wanted DS to have a sibling, but then two, one of each just seemed too 'neat' for us, so we thought we'd mess things up a bit with an odd number! (I'm the youngest of three )

re not getting pg- it took nearly two years to conceive DS, a month each to conceive DD and no. 3! (DH was slightly disappointed)

Don't listen to em. Both my babies were contented little things.
Small ages gaps are a good thing imo so go ahead if it's what you want.

I pointed out that I'm at home because I think you have to consider childcare costs - I know a few friends who are basically working to pay nursery fees at present, and that's with the classic 2 and a half year age gap.

I have 3 under 5 and love it! I think it is partly down to how you approach the challange as well as luck.

Go for it!

[says she quietly plotting #4]

Oh just get on with it!

My eldest two are 14 months apart as well. Now they are 6 and 5 it is fab. I had 3 under 3, now 4 under 6. Its all fine.

Hard work, but fine. And lovely.

Oh thank you everyone. It is nice to hear from people who have gone through what I am contemplating!

Can I just ask...how did you find the actual pregnancy being so close after eachother? Where they any more difficult or did anyone experience any difficulties as a result of not really letting your body recover inbetween?

I spoke to DH last night and I think we decided to wait until we buy our house which should be in the next month or so. That way we know that is sorted rather than being pregnant and then worrying about where to live! I think I can wait a month...I think

another who had a few close together I had 3 under 3.2yrs and also had a 15wk mmc in there. Love it, hard work and can sometimes be hell on earth on they are all ill or crying but generally day to day it works well. We are debating no.4 as eldest is currently 4.6yrs

I think if you can afford to be a SAHM then go for it.

If not, then you may want to think of waiting due to Nursery fees etc.

I had 3 under 4 and it was fine. My eldest have an 20mo gap and adore each other.

Be prepared, because it is very hard for the first year, but the rewards after that are absolutely worth it.

Hello I have 18 months between Ds1 and Dd and then 2.5 years between Dd and ds2. IMO 18 months is a brilliant gap. Yes it was hard work, but babies are hard work and all ages of children have their own challenges IMO. We never had problems with jealousy like some friends who left a bigger gap. The biggest advantage i found was that we had no pressure to be anywhere in the morning as DS1 wasn't at preschool yet. When I had DS2 we had school and preschool runs to fit in which really were hard work. DS1 and DD are really good company for each other (when they're not fighting!!!).

Trust your instincts I could never fight my broody feelings for long!!

It has been hard work but that was alot to do with colic and now we're past that stage things keep getting easier and easier. I love my little family of little people .

I meant to tell you about the preganancy and birth.

I was more tired when I was preganant with DD, but another advantage was that DS1 was still having an afternoon nap so I did to.

The birth with DD was quick and, dare I say it, easy?!!!! I don't think my body suffered from having 2 close together if anything it seemed to cope better.

I got pregnant with DD when DS was 8 months. Absolutely no regrets, I love having a small age gap.

Regarding pregnancies- no complications here. I get Hyperemesis which was terrible with the first two, but DS was so young I don't think he really understood what was happening- just that he got to play with grannie a lot!
I've not had HG with this pg, just grotty prolonged MS but I don't think I've done any 'harm' to my body. Just take plenty of vitamins and eat as healthily as you can manage. Toddler keeps you pretty active which is good.