First chemical after mmc

[Ottie12]

I think I’m experiencing my first chemical pregnancy and I feel heartbroken.

I posted on here a few weeks ago about my cycles and ovulation being a bit messed up after mmc a few months ago (found out in March, had failed medical management, ended up with start of an infection and retained products and had surgical management in April). My previous cycle (before this suspected chemical) was around 34 days, they were 28 before my mmc.

I thought I was out this cycle (I don’t think I ovulated until day 33) but my period hasn’t turned up and when I calculated from my peak opk I would be around 16dpo as of today. Had vvvfl from 12dpo, but they haven’t got any darker at all, even on early detection tests. So I think from what I’ve read this is a chemical.

im just looking for anyone who has been through similar and gone on to have a successful pregnancy. Is there anything I can do to help me have a successful one?

I got pregnant the cycle after my chemical. Unfortunately it ended in a MMC, but I suspect I have a blood clotting issue (3 losses in a row now and my blood tests come back with high platelet count every time). I don't think there's any way we can control how the next one will go, but the positive thing (the only positive) about having recurrent losses is that we will be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic for investigations.

@Ottie12 I am sorry that you are going through this. I miscarried in February (my first ever pregnancy) and then had a chemical the month following. I am now pregnant again (5+6 weeks) and hoping this one is going to work out. I found that my periods were very painful in the months following the miscarriage and that they took a while to settle down into my normal pattern (I am usually 27 days). I have since wondered whether the pain was related to inflammation and that my chemical did not stick because my body was not ready. We took April off trying and then caught in the 4th cycle.

I am in Ireland so I think the rules are different on losses but my GP put me on progesterone and aspirin at the beginning of this pregnancy. I had some light spotting and cramping that completely freaked me out. All well so far. Before catching last cycle my GP had also made me a referral for fertility testing (I am 37, DP is 41). She said my getting pregnant was good but that we could investigate the causes of the losses (she noted DPs swimmers could be the issue).

@Baby26 I’m so sorry to hear about your chemical and mmc, they’re so tough to go through. Are you doing ok?

That’s so true, there’s no way of knowing with any pregnancy I suppose, I just feel like I must be doing something wrong, so much goes through your head, like am I not eating the right things, or taking the right vitamins etc.

have you been referred for further investigations?

thank you @ForGiddyDreamer
I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and chemical too. Huge congratulations for this pregnancy though! Keeping everything crossed for you, and hoping for a very healthy pregnancy. Its gives me hope!

Thats what im thinking with the inflammation too, did you do anything to help your body with that?

With the progesterone and aspirin, were you put on that as soon as you got your bfp?
The cramping and spotting must of been so scary, but im so glad it’s all ok. I dont think that fear will ever go away, even more so when you’ve had a loss.

maybe some investigations would be a good idea for us too. I’m 37 and falling pregnant doesn’t seem to be an issue (fingers crossed anyway) it’s having a viable, sticky baby that seems to be the problem.

@Ottie12 I think taking the month off helped, both in terms of making sure my body was healed and for mental health too. The pressure on me and DP at that point was a lot. I went to my GP when I was 3+5 weeks (so 3 days after the first vfl) because I had light pink spotting and cramping. I asked about progesterone (I had read posts on here about how it can help support a pregnancy but it does not prevent miscarriage) and she agreed to put me on it and the aspirin. I had light cramping yesterday that made my heart race but I have read on here that it's normal as stuff in there is stretching and moving about.

Yes, she made me feel more settled when she mentioned my age. She said that over 35 the difficulty can be in getting pregnant. But since I've been pregnant 3 times in 7 months the issue is why it was not sticking - egg quality can be part of it but it can also be a sperm issue too. I got the call from the fertility clinic a few days after my vfl. Hoping this sticks but I know that we can go back to the clinic if not. Good luck to you xx