ttc over 35 is it really all doom and gloom

[chocaddict]

Hi
I am ttc my 2nd dc and I am 37 nearing 38.
I have found all of the literature out there on ttc over 35 very discouraging, is it really so difficult do you think.
I am really worried that it won,t happen for me.
I have been ttc for 8 months with no luck could it be my age.
My doctor doesn,t think 8 months is anything and said that even younger couples can take up to a year.
Please can any of you give me some encouragement on this.
Maybe you yourself has become pregnant relatively easy over 35 or know somebody who has.
Please I feel doomed.

chocaddict, I don't know the answer to your question but got pregnant at 37 with first baby after ttc for 9 months - he was born at the beginning of May. I know 2 people who got pregnant at 36 after trying for a year or more. One of my friends in that situation is now pregnant again, and conceived 1st time actually trying. Umm, as have I at 38 almost 39, but I'm still in the very early satges.

How old were you with first?

Good luck.

I got pregnant by accident at 36.

Missed m/c, then conceived after one cycle again at 37.

Am about 18 weeks along now.

Good luck!

i am 38 and both times i got pregnant i think just by mentioning it to dh. the first time at 35.

i hate admitting how easy it was for me as i know of so many stories where it hasn't been for others.

Chocaddict you are not doomed!!!! It did take me a little longer to conceive dd3 (was 36.5), 5 months compared to first time with dds 1 & 2, but still pretty good going..Am currently ttc no.4 and I'm 38 on Tuesday, so in a similar situation to you. I know it's hard to think positively, but as long as you're doing everything you can re: tracking your cycle etc,8 months really is pretty ususal. I suppose the only other option might be those diy fertility tests from Boots that measure egg researves etc, but really think (and hope!!!) that 37 is still relatively young!! Presume you're tracked ovulation etc?? Sorry if I'm stating all the obvious things

There is a thread here on Mn full of women over 40 who are pregnant...37 is like a spring chicken!
I myself didnt even meet my dh until I was 37 and only got pg with my ds just 2 months before my 43rd birthday..
For me it was a matter of getting myself as prepared as possible for pregnancy by eating a healthy, organic diet,cutting out processed foods,caffine and alcohol and taking a few suppliments..then charting my fertility (persona fertility device) to get the optimum time.
If nothing happens in the next few months go back to the doctors and ask for some investigations but until then relax and enjoy trying ...good luck and (as a friend wished for me)lots of sticky babydust to you.

I am shamed to admit that I have no idea when I ovulate or if I even do.
I have also not done any temping etc.
I have left it to chance hoping I will concieve by doing the deed regularly.
Last time I concieved at 29 doing this.

I got PG (totally unplanned and unexpected) at the age of 39, so it's perfectly possible. GOod luck.

By contrast, it took me six months to conceive each of two daughters when I was 31 and 34 respectively!

Get yourself one of the kits that tells you when you're ovulating, so you are at least trying in the right window. Eat well and get enough exercise and sleep and your chances of getting pregnant are actually very good.

I think a lot of the doom and gloom in the media is scaremongering. In previous generations it was perfectly normal for the first of your grandchildren and the last of your children to grow up together as exact contemporaries, because fertility extends to the early 40s in many cases. The door doesn't slam closed the day you turn 35.

I was 36 !/2 when I had number one and 38 when I had number two. So don't give up hope. .

I got pregnant in March, a month before my 36th birthday. I'd only come off the Pill at Christmas, AND I've got PCOS. It's not all doom and gloom. If you are worried, what about asking your GP for a hormone test? It's a blood test done on Day 2 of your period (do you have regular periods? as that's a good start), and one of the hormones they test for is Estradiol, which I believe acts as an indicator of quality/quantity of your eggs.

I got pregnant in March, a month before my 36th birthday. I'd only come off the Pill at Christmas, AND I've got PCOS. It's not all doom and gloom. If you are worried, what about asking your GP for a hormone test? It's a blood test done on Day 2 of your period (do you have regular periods? as that's a good start), and one of the hormones they test for is Estradiol, which I believe acts as an indicator of quality/quantity of your eggs.

took me a year to conceive DS at 34. 5mins to conceive DD at 37.

I'm just 38 and TTC ny first. I have been trying for 8 months. My doctor seemed to think I wasnot too old, but did say come back after 6 months.

I have a fertility monitor, pre-seed, ovulations tests, vitamins, great blood test results, good scan results... no baby.

que cera cera

will keep trying but I know how you feel.

Most of my friends didn't start having babies until over 35 and have taken between 1 month and 18 months to get pg. All have been successful in the end. One friend who did try much earlier had IVF in the end and she was only 29. Friends also had babies at 43 and 45.
I think it can be harder and prob more risk of M/C but not remotely unusual or impossible. Everyone pg here (SW London) either seems to be 36 or 16...
I had DD last year (conceived at 37) and none of the MW or doctors said anything about age, in fact the MW said it was nice to see a 'proper date of birth' (she had a baby in her 40s and was getting sick of seeing mothers who were born in the 90s (mine was the 60s!)

I had ds at 37 and got pg first time off. Currently going for number 2 and got pg straightaway again at 38 - sadly ended in an early mc but hoping to get lucky this time. My dr said I was a 'normal' age so you have nothing to worry about imo. Good luck.

I got pg 3 times during the year I was 43 (2 mmc). DD2 was a happy surprise while we were trying to decided whether to TTC again (having done the Deed once in 3 months )

In contrast it took us 18 months to conceive DD1 when I was 21.

I conceived without trying at all at age 36 - got positive test on my 37th birthday. It took around six months to conceive my second baby at 39. Friend had her first at 43 last year.