Hello, I had a loss on april this year (23+2) due to cervix incompetence, suspicion of extreme early onset pre-eclampsia and complications after a rescue cerclage done in the week 21+2 (I had a hematome after the stitch, which probably infected and started causing the contractions). Our baby Noah was born alive, 30 cm, 520 g, but died after 19 minutes (we decided with the doctors that we would do palleative care instead of trying to keep him alive, cause he was just too young and not enough developed). I am so sad and know that nothing can replace our little Noah but I am also craving to be pregnant again and bring a baby home.
The waiting game is the worst thing... We want to wait at least four months to try again, so we plan to TTC again in august this year. But I am really anxious about the whole process (will we get pregnant right away? will we have to wait long and have fertility problems? will the baby stick once we get pregnant? will I have again complications? will I have an extreme preterm labor again?) and the list goes on...
So I was looking for a thread here to have support. With the last pregnancy I found a thread for the august babies and it was a tremendous support. We then had a whatsapp group and were really closed friends and supported each other.
Once we lost our little Noah I left the group cause I did not have our baby with us and the group was super hard to keep up with... but I thought that for this journy of TTC again and if eventually getting pregnant, that I wanted to have a support group again, and if the group is specially of moms with rainbows babies, which also have gone through a second trimester loss, then I thought would be even better, cause we would understand each other and be in a similar place.
Sorry for the long message and sorry for the losses of every girl reading through these lines... But I hope so find some of you here who want to support each other through this journey and hopefully we will have our next pregnancy soon :)