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Anyone else in a similar position? Am I nuts for wanting to ttc again?

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givingitanothergo · 29/06/2025 23:49

I’m not sure which forum to put this in !!

We conceived our last baby (now 5months) last April/June, it was a rocky pregnancy and at the start we lost a twin. It all happened very early on and I was under EPU to see everything had cleared and make sure our living baby was doing great. Our twin was not really ever a baby I guess and likely never had a heartbeat but still I feel hurt over it? Which is an odd feeling as yes I lost one but I still have our absolute miracle who we went through so many complications along the way with but he’s here and absolutely fine and perfect !!

a family member made some comments a few days ago about how maybe he’s so clingy because of not having his twin, and then said how would I have coped with two babies.. which feels an odd thing to say and it upset me.

Is it wrong to be feeling like I do? wanting to ttc so soon? We’re not preventing anyway but we have 2 children and both were not easy or short paths to conception anyway. I’ve had talks with my husband and I think we’re going to take it a bit more seriously from November but I still can’t help but feel I want this baby so badly right now 😭

I wondered how others that had lost a twin felt? Did you want to ttc again after you had the surviving twin?

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OneGiddyRubyViewer · 30/06/2025 04:11

Bear in mind if they’re only 14 months apart they may be in the same year at school.

PenguinLover24 · 30/06/2025 04:17

Hugs OP! i have never been in this situation before so I can't add anything useful but just wanted to say your family member is a twat!

xWildFlowerx · 30/06/2025 06:34

Hi, sorry I don't have any experience of losing a twin but my two eldest children are 14 months apart. I personally have loved it, they're now 5 and just turned 7. I then had a 20 months gap between children 2 and 3!

Zapx · 30/06/2025 06:51

a family member made some comments a few days ago about how maybe he’s so clingy because of not having his twin, and then said how would I have coped with two babies.. which feels an odd thing to say and it upset me.”

I’m not surprised that upset you- it’s definitely an odd thing to say and no way should they have said it.

Abie04 · 30/06/2025 09:11

I lost 1 twin around 7 weeks but it was an easy pregnancy apart from the nausea that lasted about the whole 9 months. I always think about the baby that i lost but i have never felt like having another one soon however we deal with these situations differently, now my DS is 2 i am trying again just hoping i dont experience VTS again.

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