Trying to conceive

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My husband and I agreed to start trying to have a baby from June 2025, he would rather not track anything and just try whenever we feel like it etc so, so far we’ve only tried twice and will probably only try another twice potentially 3 times this month but I’ve always wanted to try at-least once a day or maybe every other day during the month to give us the best possible chance but my husband thinks what we do now is enough. Should we be trying every day or is once or twice a week enough?

Its our first time trying and I’ve wanted to start trying for a baby for years but he always wanted to wait, now it’s here I just want to try all the time because I really want a baby but he would rather just continue the way we always have, am I just being impatient so should I just go with the flow? I really don’t know 😂

Are you trying around the time of ovulation? Or just randomly throughout the month? You’ve only got around 4-5 days fertile window so unless you’re trying in that time your chances are slim.

We’ve tried once so far around my ovulation time and I’m hoping to try again during this period too
but he would rather just try randomly throughout the month as he says that it’ll become too stressful if we just stick to those days each month

I get it can be stressful for men. If you have an idea of your ovulation, you could try ‘randomly’ through the month but make sure you get a couple of times in around your ovulation. You’ve don’t have to tell him when that is.

That’s true, thank you for your advice 😊

Well really there are only 5 days each month that it is possible to conceive, with a higher chance on the day/day of ovulation so if you’re just randomly doing 2 days a week throughout the month then in a 4 week month, 6 of those days you have no chance of falling pregnant because you’re nowhere near ovulation.

Do you happen to know how he thinks getting pregnant happens? Like, if you told him you have one egg a month and it hangs around for 12-24 hours and then “dies”and then that’s it for a whole other month, do you think he’d be surprised?

Does he know that you only really have 5 days of the month that you could get pregnant? I guess it depends how much you want to try. You would be better to track your ovulation if you are trying for a baby. Or if you’re happy to risk that it may take months if you aren’t timing it - then that’s absolutely fine! Just depends how quickly you want to be pregnant

From someone who has been trying for two years. It can be exhausting - don’t go in too much too soon - try to up sex as much as you can but don’t lose the spontaneity. If nothing happens in a few months maybe start tracking things more closely. If you start doing all of that too soon you’ll burn out if it doesn’t work