Need some advice please.

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AF was due on Monday, did a test then and yesterday and both were negative. I was a bit crampy on Monday and Tuesday so thought she was on her way. Today I’ve had no cramping at all and still no AF. I’ve had the tugging and pulling sensation but can’t remember if I always feel this when AF due.

My Flo app predicts i ovulated on 25th May, we dtd on 22nd, 23rd, 29th and 31st. We also dtd on 26th and 27th but he pulled out. I had an abortion last year and when I went for the scan, they measured me at 6w3d(?) but the Flo app thought I was a week ahead going by lmp. So maybe sometimes I do ovulate later than I think? I got my positive test 1 week after AF was due.

Unfortunately, me and DP split up last week so I’m a bit all over the place. Therefore, could it just be stress that’s delaying AF? I have one more test left and am just going to try and hold off as long as I can, providing AF doesn’t show.

I know I’m likely to be asking an un-answerable question, but just need someone to speak to as I don’t want to bring this up to friends yet as I don’t want the “what are you going to do if you are pregnant?” questions. I have no idea yet and will cross that bridge if it comes to it. The abortion last year broke my heart and I really don’t think I can go through that again, but at the same time I’m not so sure I can do this on my own.

Please don’t judge about having unprotected sex. I told him we should use a condom, but he said he didn’t want to - insinuating he was ready to try again. Any advice or anything would really be appreciated. Thank you.

I’ve just taken an ovulation test, and I know this isn’t a reliable way to test for pregnancy, but the 2nd line is thick and I’ve never had that before, even when I’ve tried testing for ovulation in the past. I don’t think I’ve even had a line that dark before… again I’m not taking it as gospel but I just don’t know what to think 😩

Edit: I’ve added a pic but it’s under review.

Whilst LH tests do pick up pregnancy hormones, your test is still very light and not a good indication of pregnancy.

unfortunately you will have to wait until you miss your period and then test. That’s the only way you’ll know for sure

sorry to hear about you splitting up with your partner, wishing you the best x

Thank you for your reply.

yeah I agree it’s still light but compared to the ovulation test I did on Sunday, it’s thicker and darker. But still, I know it could not be an indication.

I’ll give it a few more days and see what happens.

thank you, it’s been awful but one day at a time 😔

Sorry but it’s just a waiting game at this point which is the most frustrating answer I know.

Hopefully AF turns up soon and you can get yourself back on track to try when ready

Thank you.

The top test is today’s and the bottom is Sundays. Just so annoying, hate being late for AF and not knowing what’s going on 😩

Were you testing for ovulation every month? Have you already found your peak for this month? If so, I would take a pregnancy test now. What pregnancy tests are you using? They have different sensitivity levels. A 10miu one show will be the best option if you do decide to test now

LH tests do pick up HCG and if you already confirmed ovulation previously, it could be a good sign!

I’ve never found my peak hence why this is the darkest I’ve seen it. I’m not sure I test properly, but I would do a few tests leading up to my predicted ovulation date on Flo, and they were always fairly light and never got darker so I always gave up. I’ve read that some women don’t get their peaks on these tests, so I don’t know if that’s me or if I’m giving up testing too early and missing the peak - relying on Flo too much.

I ordered some FRER last night as the other two tests I used were 20/25miul. I thought one of them was 10miul so thought hmm better get a more sensitive one then! They’re being delivered today so depending how I feel, I’ll either test today or wait until tomorrow.

Sorry, edited to say that I used a Clear & Simple test on Monday and an ASDA one on Tuesday.

Oh I see. I think those who don’t find their peak just miss it. It can come and go very quickly. Do you have regular cycles?

If your period was due on Monday (and your cycles are regular) you should have a positive by now with a 10miu test.

I used the clear blue early test and the cheap pre mom ones from Amazon and had a very clear positive at 10DPO.

keep us updated x

Yeah I have no idea. I always wanted to find it and would test twice a day, but would lose patience when it just stayed the same all the time so gave up!

thank you, I will definitely keep you posted. The tests have been dispatched but not out for delivery yet, so I don’t think I’ll get them until late on this afternoon/evening. In which case I may just wait until tomorrow if still no AF.

feeling a bit nervous and nautious now but just trying to convince myself that I’ve stressed my body out this last week and it’s caused a delay. I guess we’ll soon find out though..

When I was pregnant I did an ovulation test just for fun and the second line was that dark it stole dye from the test line, that was at a similar dpo to what you think you might be now.

Fingers crossed it's the answer you want when your new tests arrive. I agree with PP at two days past misses period if ovulation is right and periods are regular I would expect it to show up even on the less sensitive tests.

Thank you @SummerSun24. I’ve taken another ovulation test and it’s the same as last night’s. FRER tests are due to be delivered between 2.30 and 5.30, so I’ll decide when they come if I’ll test tonight or tomorrow. I’ve never had a positive using FMU, they’ve always been late morning/afternoon. Surely if I’m pregnant it’ll show with a FRER, but if I do one tonight/tomorrow and still negative, I’ll try and wait it out until Monday to test again if AF still hasn’t made her appearance.

Yeah I got a positive on a sensitive test in the evening at 9dpo which granted is unusual but usually any urine from any time if day after a missed period I would of thought would be positive at this point!

FRER is negative. I had a feeling it would be. If no AF over the weekend then I will test again Monday, but I really think the breakup has caused so much stress that it’s just not come. Heartbreak sucks, we’ve all been there! I’m not treating my body very kindly so it’s clearly taken its toll. Thank you all for your comments, though. I’ll be back if I do end up getting a positive, but I’m not going to hold my breath.

There is a 2nd line but 100% sure it’s an indent as there’s no colour and vvvvvl. If it’s still like that Monday then I’ll know to stop testing.

Agree it’s an indent?

Inverted. Definitely indent ha.