TTC 3rd at 38 after 7 year gap.

[abbalover1987]

Hello. I don't really know what I am looking for here. Maybe just connecting with people who understand. Please no judgement as I judge myself enough.
I have 2, eldest was a huge surprise and I got pregnant in the 1st cycle with my 2nd(now 6.5).
I have wanted a 3rd for 6 years but my partner has just come around. In those 6 years I have been pregnant 3 times, completely unplanned. 1 miscarriage, 1 abortion during COVID when I lost my job and house and a year ago another abortion - to this day I don't understand why I did it. I have really struggled this past year with regret and trying to understand my decision (my personal experience, no judgement on abortions).
We decided to try last month. We REALLY tried... I am well aware that 38 may take a while. But I'm now 5 days away from period and have had 3 completely negative tests (cheap early detection) I feel like I'm getting my period. I'm now so worried that it won't happen. It's happened so easily 5 times but now it's not. I feel like karma is coming for me. Is 38 too late? Hopefully someone out there with be able to connect to this. I'm a very private person so not discussing this with anyone I know.

Hi love I didn’t want to read and run. I’m 37 soon and ttc for our second. I’ve had friends have babies way into their 40’s and read lots of posts on here where women have babies in late 30’s and 40’s so I’m taking hope from that.
we have a 6 year old too and we’ve been ttc for quite a while now but some months life got in the way and I had a chemical last summer.
im using ovulation tests, tracking cycles, trying to be healthy and taking vitamins and fingers crossed it all works out.

I think it varies when the embryo implants so it really does vary when you get a positive test so I’d say don’t give up just yet. I’ve everything crossed for you xx

38 isn't too late to conceive.

Pregnancy test at most accurate when your period is due or late.

I’m 40 and trying to conceive my third and partner’s first. My children are 15 and 11.

Nobody can have an opinion on the decisions that you made for yourself when you needed to make them. Being able to forgive yourself if you feel you might have made a mistake is all you need to focus on, because you don’t deserve “bad karma” or anything at all. Women have been controlling their pregnancies and gestation since the dawn of the species.

I wish you lots of luck 😊