Think I’ve failed to ovulate. Will my body try again this cycle?

[Stardust127]

Hiya

bit of background - have an 11month old ds. Had early miscarriages Jan & Feb this year. Have had regular , normal periods every month since.

I track ovulation and have successfully (I think) ovulated each cycle since the mcs. This month, I am due to ovulate today. I did a test on Monday just gone, high level. I did a test today, it was so negative/low you could barely even see the T line. All my other cycles I’d have my peak test on this day (3 days after 1st high one) I haven’t tested between now and Monday because I’ve been so busy with my baby who’s teething and I only had 2 tests left for this cycle.

do you think my body has failed to ovulate? And if so will it try to ovulate again at some other point in my cycle? I’m quite annoyed about not testing properly as it turns out this is probably the month I needed to the most.

im actually sick and tired of TTC but I’m far too stubborn to give up and we want our babies close together (please no comments about trying so soon after my ds as respectfully that’s not the advice I’m after :) )

thank you :)

11 months isn't weirdly early or anything. 20m is a perfectly normal age gap.

Assuming you are having sex every couple of days just in case, I would just try to put it out of your mind this cycle. But in future, OPKs are useful if you don't want to have sex too much and you want to time it exactly right, but they aren't great for confirming you have ovulated. If that's what you want I suggest BBT. Either on its own if you are happy to just have regular sex until about four days after ovulation (when BBT has confirmed ovulation has happened) or in tandem with OPKs if you want to have less sex!

Thanks so much that’s really useful information. I thought OPKs were like ‘you’ve ovulated’ set in stone and that’s that. I’ve had all other symptoms that I’ve ovulated so it is a bit odd about the tests. I’m a bit run down (probably because baby teething etc) I wonder if that’s had any effect.

I too think it’s a normal age gap but I did have people say to me it’s best to wait like 18 months or whatever it is to get pregnant , maybe they were trying to make me feel ‘ better’ about the MCs. Since they’ve happened, I’ve lost all hope of having another baby which is working mentally in my favour because if it happens, great, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. I’ve got a job lined up hopefully for January next year and my son a potential nursery place so I’ve actually ‘planned’ as if we won’t have another one. We’ll see!

Nope, AFAIK they just show you've had a LH spike, but occasionally your body tries to ovulate and fails, but LH still spikes so your OPK tells you you are about to ovulate but you never actually do. Sometimes your body tries again and successfully ovulates a while later.

MCs are really hard. I know what you mean about being pessimistic to sort of protect yourself. Kind of makes disappointment feel less severe. Hoping you were just unlucky with the two MCs though, and you won't have any more trouble 🤞