TTC - DAY 39 SPOTTING - DO I DARE BELIEVE I COULD BE PREGNANT

[anonymouse9191]

Currently on day 39 of my cycle, been experiencing nausea, exhaustion and slightly achy boobs. I spotted on day 18, this was 2 days after having sex. I have just been to the toilet now and I have started spotting again on day 39 (again 2 days after having sex). I have irregular periods (endo), a cervical ectropion and I also was overweight so I went on the pill for a few months whilst I was trying to lose weight with Mounjaro, to try and help my periods and put us in a good place to get help if we need it. After losing over a stone but also struggling with constant bleeding I came off both. Whilst not actively trying but not not trying I have had so many BFN's. I'd have symptoms that would convince me I had to be pregnant only to get a BFN, emotionally I am drained as again I have convinced myself I'm pregnant but I cant face taking a test and getting another BFN. I'd prefer to bury my head in the sand until AF arrives and I cant bury it any longer. Despite having regular unprotected sex with both my exes I have never been pregnant and I'm really starting to believe I'll never have children and it breaks my heart. I suppose I wont really know if I am or not until I test or AF comes. But was just wondering if anyone was in a similar position and had good news?

When is you period due?

Before the POP pill my period could be anywhere from 25 days to 50 days. I did have a twinge to the left of my pelvis for a few minutes two mondays in a row that lasted about 5 minutes before going. I have noticed on cycles where I ovulate that I get really anxious and depressed around ovulation and get terrible PMS (sore boobs for 2 weeks, horrible cramps in thighs, stomach and back). All I have had over the last 39 days was the twinges along with being anxious and depressed for a few days which is making me think I may have ovulated. I just dont want to be dissapointed again.

Hi OP, very difficult to know if you don’t know your ovulation date. I would use ovulation strips next cycle for you to pin point ovulation date so you know. Spotting 2 days after having sex wouldn’t really mean anythin because implantation bleeding would occur about 6-10 day post ovulation and it would usually be a spec on an underwear, very very light … I’m sorry
i have pcos and I really recommend using ovulation strips. Very useful. Good luck 🤞🏼

I would also add that while some people get lucky and get pregnant quick without trying, with irregular cycles you need to know when you ovulated and be sexually active during this window which lasts about 4/5 days.

I have a cervical ectropion which can sometimes get irritated during sex, if I am going to bleed from this it usually happens during/just after sex. So my query around the spotting is really around whether its possible to bleed 2 days after rather than during or just after or I may even be making a link that doesnt really exist in the hope that todays spotting isnt the beginning of my period. We weren't really trying, just not not trying if you know what I mean, so we werent tracking ovulation. But if i use both twinges as a guide for ovulation allowing a few days I would be either 4 or 5 weeks.

I see…! The only way to know would be to test I think… im sorry!

I agree - there are too many varying factors that could mean so many things - the only way you will know is to take a pregnancy test - and then going forward doing ovulation tests every day to find your peak. If you are actively trying for a baby and your cycles are so different month on month i think that is going to be the best way for you.