Ttc vent - don’t think there was a surge

[MyPeppyLimeBear]

Hi all,

bit of a vent here, none of my friends are TTC just yet/most are not interested in having children so I feel like I don’t have many people to talk to about this.

I’m 30 years old and my partner is 34. We have been TTC since around Christmas time. I started tracking my ovulation this month for the first time. I recorded no surges/positive results during my ‘fertile period’ (I was also testing either side of this also with no positive results either. The highest Premom recorded was around 0.71. I know there is a chance it didn’t last very long and I missed it but I was testing twice a day almost every day. I feel a bit disheartened by this.

My cycle is very unpredictable - sometimes lasting up to 50 days - sometimes 30! I’m on day 31 of my cycle today. I had heavy cramping yesterday and some spotting which makes me think my period may be on the way soon - unless it was implantation which I know is very unlikely. My other symptoms were acne (which I always get before my period and low mood). This happened 6 days after what would’ve been my predicted ovulation date. No spotting or other signs today. Maybe I’m just looking far too into this?

I have a GP appt in 2 weeks to chat about what could be going on but I’m just feeling very deflated and wondered who else was in the same boat. Any words of wisdom would be gratefully accepted.

I also accidentally reversed into another car last week which has just filled me with anxiety which I’m sure doesn’t help things. Of course left my details and I’m going to see the other car owner today after work to discuss how we move forward.

thank you all.

Are you having lots of sex Op?

On previous months yes but this month only averaging once a week during my partner working away. However 3 times during what would’ve been my fertile window (although no peak so I imagine it did nothing)?

Ramp up the sex. Big time. Not just during window but immediately before and after. And throughout the month!

you can’t go to the gp and say…. A couple of times in the last month Op.

cancel the app. Focus on two months of loads of sex. And then if nothing… rebook

Hey, I have a GP appt as I have adenomyosis (GP says this will not effect fertility but we do have regular appts for it). In previous months Ttc we had sex most days throughout the month.

Ok that was something of a relevant detail OP

The fact you’re having daily sex

Yes this is the only month the sex has been few and far between due to my partners work. Unfortunately it won’t make a lot of difference how much sex I have if I am not ovulating however ha ha.

I think if you got 0.71 you probsly did peak and missed it! My surge is so fast it’s easy to
miss the darkest one if you’re not testing multiple times a day xx

A by multiple times I mean 5 times a day🤣 it sounds extreme but I would miss it otherwise! I now do bbt as well to confirm ovulation which might help for you next cycle!

This was a really helpful and reassuring comment thank you lovely x

Have you considered tracking your basal body temperature as well? Apparently a thermometer can highlight if you have actually ovulated. Do a little reading about it and buy a digital thermometer that has two decimal places. There is an app you can input the results into and it will give you a chart to see if your temperature goes up to signify ovulation happened.

Thank you for the advice will definitely look into this!

As long as you are having sex every second day of the fertile window then the timing is right. Bonus points if you can have sex on ovulation day but the day before will still do the job. You don’t need to obsess about the LH surge. Your cervical mucus is the best guide- when it’s like slippery egg white then that is your biggest sign to have sex.

Doctor appt is a good idea. You can get blood tests to check iron levels, folate and immunity levels for certain viruses. It’s standard procedure for pregnancy planning.

Good luck!

Thank you so much this is very helpful xx

Was also going to suggest BBT temping, plus tracking cervical mucus. You can find your fertile window with just cervical mucus if you track it!

the advice on regular sex is good, and it’s what the gp will probably suggest, BUT it can put a lot of pressure on and having loads of sex isn’t always feasible when you’re TTC

Thanks all. Just tested 9DPO on an ultra early but definitely negative. Will use all of your tips in the next cycle (marking 6 months Ttc), thank you very much for your lovely comments. Lovely community here Xx