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Anyone else never seen a positive pregnancy test and can't actually imagine what it's like?

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Orangelover · 14/05/2025 18:54

Just that really.

Coming up to a year's worth of cycles, on the brink of booking a Drs appointment. Nothing cycle wise to suggest I'm not ovulating. Have done OPKs some months but generally know when I'm ovulating due to EWCM and symptoms so have just done for it. Done combinations of DTD every other day, every day during FTW, SMEP. You name it, no fruitful results as of yet, not even a whiff of a line. Never even had line eyes Wink

Anyone else in the same boat? I feel we started out really relaxed and were just going with the flow but I've tested this week and BFN once again has made me feel emotional this time around. I've got a couple of close friends pregnant at the minute and another few couples about to start trying and I'm so excited for them but desperately want to be in the club. I know life shouldn't be about comparing yourself to others but this is one thing I feel can really impact your friendships and relationships at this age and I just have this horrible vision of all my friends becoming mums and moving in to they next chapter of their lives and me just being here, miserable but trying to brave face it.

I'm well aware this sounds incredibly dramatic because it's only been a year, I have a regular cycle and there's plenty of chance I've just not been patient enough as of yet. But I really have hit that point where I'm past the romance of TTC (if there ever was any). Thankfully my DH is much calmer than me.

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Claireyyy · 14/05/2025 19:38

Yep, in the same boat. 16 months into trying with nothing at all. I did have a chemical pregnancy 3 years ago though so had 2 positive tests and then negative. Then we got married and stopped trying for a while. We went to the GP when it had been a year and have had some tests done and have got some sort of answer as to what may be affecting us. Speak to your dr and get an appointment booked, you’ll feel better for it. The fact that I was actively doing something about it instead of waiting around wondering lightened the weight on my shoulders, may be the same for you. Sending baby dust xx

Claireyyy · 14/05/2025 19:39

I’m also regular as clockwork and my husband is more calm and confident in “it will happen when it happens” I think it’s harder for us when the tests are negative each month and af comes :( x

Clara202 · 14/05/2025 20:49

Yes! I often wonder how it would feel to watch a second line slowly appear on a test.

Oran333 · 14/05/2025 21:31

This was me. I never even had a positive on opk. I had 4 cycles of letrozole and my LO was born last year. Pray, I promise you it works.

AnonKat · 14/05/2025 21:47

I felt like this for 4 years, I couldn't imagine getting a positive. Currently 10 weeks pregnant! I cried for hours when I saw the second line.

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Orangelover · 15/05/2025 06:03

Claireyyy · 14/05/2025 19:39

I’m also regular as clockwork and my husband is more calm and confident in “it will happen when it happens” I think it’s harder for us when the tests are negative each month and af comes :( x

Yeah it's tough, and there's the hormonal aspect of it all as well. DH genuinely doesn't understand this week why I'm miserable but I can feel all my pre menstrual symptoms rumbling as usual which is bad enough anyway without the disappointment of a stark white test.

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Kittylickingplate · 15/05/2025 06:08

It took me 3 years to become pregnant with. my first. I have gone on to have 6 children but I will never, ever, ever forget the heartache of negative tests.

My Mam used to say, 'Buy something wee for the baby and then go do something you could not IF you were pregnant/had a small baby.

My heart goes out to you. x

LittleCosette · 15/05/2025 06:48

I feel the same but I remind myself I couldn’t imagine getting married or passing my driving test.
I think it’s different for men as they don’t have the false hope of every twinge or every ache as maybe just maybe being something and I doubt it is on their mind every waking moment like it is for a woman.
My last two periods were 11 days late and even though I kept getting negative tests it was so hard to extinguish that little glimmer of hope.

Vplop · 15/05/2025 08:57

LittleCosette · 15/05/2025 06:48

I feel the same but I remind myself I couldn’t imagine getting married or passing my driving test.
I think it’s different for men as they don’t have the false hope of every twinge or every ache as maybe just maybe being something and I doubt it is on their mind every waking moment like it is for a woman.
My last two periods were 11 days late and even though I kept getting negative tests it was so hard to extinguish that little glimmer of hope.

It’s defs different for men. I was trying to explain the feeling I get when I hold a baby to my partner and he didn’t get it. You know the feeling of being overcome with love and knowing that this is what you exist for. They don’t get it.

romdowa · 15/05/2025 09:14

This was us last year. 12 months trying for our second , we had some testing and dh sperm results were down. He took pre conception supplements for 3 months and we finally got a positive and I'm now 33 weeks.

Muddysocks1 · 15/05/2025 11:29

This might be helpful or not - but I felt exactly the same, and then cycle 12 I did get a positive and couldn’t believe it. It felt totally alien! It ended in a chemical but… it definitely can happen after a year, even when it feels like it never will. Plus, likely if you’ve been TTC a while you’ve tried all sorts which means it’s not 12 cycles of doing the same thing, you might be making incremental improvements that are getting you closer 🤞🏻

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