Advice please… do I need to start private fertility investigations? Going out of my mind and need advice

[Ruby233]

Hello :)
really hoping there is someone who can give me some wisdom here… no friends of mine going through this and I feel so alone.
30 yrs old and hubby is 31

background briefly:
Conceived straight away - april 2024 blighted ovum at 9 weeks had MVA
cycles went sooo long about 42 days until November/ December time evened out to 35/32 days
march - chemical pregnancy only had positives for 3 days
now - period super late, thought I was pregnant and it hit me like a ton of bricks when I saw a negative test. Judging by my symptoms I ovulated at 4 weeks so this is a 6 week cycle. Understand this is probs due to my chemical last cycle and a lot of personal stress this month. This has triggered me so much as this is what happened after my MMC last year.

had a breakdown crying and looked into private fertility investigations and now I’m so overwhelmed as will need to loose weight for ivf and that’s just more time.

ergh just advice pls

Hello I'm so sorry to hear this and was in a simailr boat- got pregnant 3 times but struggled to stay pregnant. I then went to the Zita West clinic (fairly randomly) and had the Chicago test which helped better understand the issues. It was expensive and the NHS doesn't fully recognise it but I got pregnant and stayed pregnant and had a healthy boy at age 40. Worth googling those things- you'll see different approaches but I found it all really helpful and measured. Good luck xx

It might be worth speaking to your GP. In terms of NHS IVF I’d look to get your BMI in range asap, then when you have your appointment you aren’t having to start the process.

Why do you need to go straight to private and how far off BMI 30 are you? My GP was happy to refer me for NHS treatment whilst BMI was over, but I had to be within range before starting treatment. So it was a 4month wait from GP to first hospital appointment, then bloods, internal scans, DH sperm analysis etc took another couple of months to complete followed by consultant review and appointment. I got on the fast 800 / intermittent fasting plan and lost 12kg in 12weeks to get to BMI 29. Worth giving it a try at least and seeing if you can save your money for more rounds if the NHS treatment doesn't work.

@CrispAppleStrudels I’ve just seen horror stories on how long the wait is for tests etc down nhs route and I feel like I just want to get the ball rolling.
that is so good to know that your gp was happy for you to loose wait whilst you were waiting for a refferal. I thought they didn’t do that so amazing to know. How long was your total experience from tests to ivf if you don’t mind me asking?

I think I probably need to loose about 3/4 stone, I definitely comfort ate this year after the miscarriage… :(

thank you so much for the response

Mine was about 4 months for testing then about the same for the IVF referral.

I didn't need ivf in the end - I did ovulation induction first and that worked for us. But once I had my first appointment, things moved at quite a steady pace. Our hospital's website said something like 6months waiting list for first appointment but it was only 4months or so in the end. A couple of months to get all the testing done and then I did three cycles of OI - it would have been ivf next if that hadn't worked.

Sorry about your miscarriage 💐