If you had IVF and it worked did you expect it to ?

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I’m going to be having my fourth FET soon. I have got no expectation that it will
work and feel so deflated, defeated and negative. Then I worry that my negativity will somehow affect the outcome but it’s like I just can’t imagine it could work ?

If you had success from IVF were you expecting it to work . I was so excited and positive with my previous transfers and they didn’t work so I suppose mindset can’t affect it but still I’m anxious.

Did you pgta test blastocysts ?

I didn’t expect IVF to work for me at age 39. DC2 was the 4th FET and our penultimate try.

No we couldnt stretch finances to testing. Dh has a child from a previous relationship so we have had to fund it privately and this last embryo is the last chance.

I expected them all to work tbh, I couldn’t have kept going if I didn’t. Maybe it would have been less heartbreaking if I’d been more realistic.

5 fresh cycles, 3 frozen transfers.
4 mc, 1 DC, 3 BFN

DC was born with the least amount of eggs harvested, the lowest number of fertilised and one of only two surviving embryos, 2 day transfer.
I had better response on other cycles but either bfn of mc.
Ages 30-39.

It’s so hard isn’t it. Each time I seemed to have SO many eggs at egg collection then hardly got any embryos and it’s just so disappointing and it’s been so long now that I can’t ever imagine seeing a (genuine and not trigger related) positive pregnancy test 😔

I want to be excited and positive and I just can’t do it I keep getting tearful instead.

This might be a long shot, but review your meds

if you’re not on Prontogest, ask to be

This is really interesting as I was considering asking to have lubion rather than cyclogest but is a progesterone in oil better ?

Oh boy! Let me go on an essay here!

Prontogest is the gold standard. I won’t lie to you, the needle in the arse is NOT nice and after two weeks on it, I couldn’t sit down and could barely walk. But by that point, I had a positive pregnancy test and the they switched me to Lubion.

i had the Cyclogest 400mg twice a day and the injections of progesterone on top.

I also had Evorel, not sure if they’ve got you on that. I was Prostap’d downregulated beforehand

The Lubion is twice a day, but a tiny needle into your stomach fat. It’s the same likely as your stims injections.

The Prontogest is deep into the muscle. It’s a big needle. I couldn’t do it myself, my husband had to. It’s a slow release and very stable. It’s every other day and you have to alternate buttocks.

I was very positive the first round and it floored me that it failed. it never entered my head that it wouldnt work.
2nd round I was very negative. wasn't the best grade only had one from a large collection.
I cried throughout the transfer as it was "pointless" has the most stressful 2 week waite (broke my front tooth, car crash, work related stuff)
and then a negative test
then. positive test
then. negative test
anyway he's here now and nearly 2 years old and has kept me on my toes since the first test!!

I did 5 egg collections and transfers. I’d say by the last one I’d pretty much given up - asked the clinic to work backwards in terms of priority to transfer saving the best to last - as it so happened 5th time lucky and ended up with twins 😂 (with the top quality ones still left in the freezer)

One round, five eggs, four fertilised, only one good enough to transfer.
No I didn’t expect it to work at all as statistics/science pointed to it not.
It did.
Now pregnant naturally with baby #3 (DC2 was also natural conception after IVF baby #1)

What I’ve learned is that it’s all completely unscientific really. I have significant fertility issues, no mindset/statistics/eating pineapple core seem to make any difference. It’s all just random really.

Disclaimer: this is my opinion, everyone’s journeys are so different and so is their opinion on this sorta stuff.

My daughter has one round of IVF and fully expected it to work first time.
I tried to gently prepare her for a disappointment incase it didn't.
But there was no need..it worked first time and my beautiful granddaughter is almost 13.

IVF worked for us first time after four years of TTC, I was absolutely convinced it wouldn't. We had seven embryos, all poor enough quality that we couldn't freeze any, and were advised to transfer two as there was so little chance of implantation (we had been told throughout the process that one at a time was the only choice we had). One of those two implanted, I then had an easy pregnancy.

Second pregnancy was natural - I am convinced that surgery for endometriosis (including removal of a damaged fallopian tube), hormone therapy, IVF, and 12 months of breastfeeding did something of a reset/cleanup of my reproductive system.

I hope it works for you ❤️

I went through fertility treatments for over a year and had a miscarriage before it finally worked. I figured I would just keep working at it and wouldn't get my hopes up.

Afterwards, doctors would ask "Is this a planned pregnancy?" And I would say "Yes, but I'm shocked the plan worked."

I was believing for it to work because of my faith in God. I had one round, one month before i turned 45, with my own eggs and my (now ex) husband's sperm... but he had poor sperm morphology and we had been trying for 8 years... I was told by one consultant it would never work when I went to her aged 42. I eventually left her care after eventually having 4 failed rounds of IUI, and the second consultant who I went with when I was about to turn 45 told me it was a 97% failure rate and I had one shot at it. And it worked first go thankfully

But i was still absolutely amazed and cried when I saw the pink line on the test. And when the scans showed that everything was normal

7 rounds, 2 miscarriages, 4 failures, last one a success. When I say I was rock bottom, I mean ROCK bottom. It worked, when I was almost praying for it not to so we could move on with our lives.

If your thoughts had any impact on success then it would have worked for you by now. Brutal process, you aren't doing anything wrong. Our brains protect themselves in the only way they know how- for some thats positive thinking, for some its seeing signs, for some it's being negative and preparing for the worst. The outcomes are all the same no matter your thoughts. X