Guidance needed - confused

[clarityseeker]

I need some advice please. My ‘FWB’ partner is as regular as clockwork, always 25/27 days.
She was due on Friday 17th April, she had a very pink smear on tissue from a wipe at 10:30am, then 24 hours later, she had much darker, brown and very clotted blood on a tissue, but not the normal bright red and volume period she would usually have. Sunday was a much, much lighter smear on tissue, she then had a very small amount of blood on a pad on Monday.

We had unprotected sex and then finished with a condom on day 19 of her cycle (10th April) and we are worried she may be pregnant.

We have tested multiple times up to this morning (23rd April) with Clearblue digital ultra (10mIU/ml) tests, all negative.

She did have a small bout of sickness on Saturday afternoon, but has been fine since; she is going through grief at present with a family death anniversary.
We believe she ovulates around day 11 normally so day 19 should be safer, and with us both being 43 years old, the chances are lower.

We have now tasted 12 days after sex, and five days after her period should have been.

The bleeding she did have was very clotted so not sure if it could have been implantation?

Should we just put this down to a strange period and accept the negative test result?

Thanks in advance!

We had unprotected sex.
Then you know 100% that she could get pregnant.

Well I’ve been told repeatedly on here by others who have experienced it that clotting isn’t in implantation bleeding. If you google it it also states that clotting is rare with it. It’s either brown or pink and spotting. If you’re 43 then the change in period could well be different due to menopausal changes, as I and my friends have experienced changes in our cycles around 37 years old. But also stress and grief can wreak havoc with your cycle too, so that could cause a lighter period.

While a test could possibly still be negative I would say at 5 days ‘late’ you would likely see a faint line at least. I sensing from your post that perhaps this is a pregnancy scare rather than you both being hopeful, So sending love and hoping it works out the way you want it to.

Thank you igli, that’s really kind of you to provide such a detailed and caring answer.

The tests we have used have all been the ultra low threshold digital ones from Clearblue and you are correct, it is a scare and not really what we would like.

As she had some bleeding / clotting over the four days from the day her period was due, we are hopeful it was just a ‘strange period’.

Thanks once again, we were giving up hope of a kind and sensible answer.

Best wishes x

It can be challenging to get reassurance from these forums I find, which is ultimately what most people are on here looking for, myself included!

Fingers crossed and I wish you all the best. The outcome will be okay no matter what it is, but if I was someone being hopeful to be pregnant I think I would have lost all hope at this point so I think you are probably in the clear. If she continues to have these unusual periods it might be worth consulting with the GP to investigate the cause. Lighter periods can be a sign of stress and can be perimenopausal changes, but they can also be indicative of other conditions so I think it would be a good idea to rule out anything else. But some months are just strange months!

I was quite surprised at the lack of support to be fair not to mention the top reply, it’s like, why say anything if not to be constructive.

We did another test on the first wee of the day today and it was negative, so one week after period was due (although she did have some kind of period) and two weeks after out last sex so hopefully that it’s conclusive now would you say??

Thanks again for all of your kidnesss x

so we have done another test today and it is still negative.

she has had sore boobs for the last day although this can happen before her monthly she said, also, we are heightened to look for these things which we may normally miss.

17 days after sex with a Clearblue ultra digital negative test, can we take this as conclusive there is no pregnancy?

I would say she’s likely not pregnant at this point. They say two weeks after ovulation so you should be fine. You can breathe a sigh of relief!

Thanks giggly.

we tested again this morning at day 18, also negative.

thank you for your kind and sensible words x

You’re welcome, sending love!