Looking for positive stories of anyone over 35 conceiving within 12 months despite age…

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As the title really. I am feeling low. On to cycle 5, whilst I know this is well within normal timeframes I still get this disappointment each month that makes me feel so deflated. Had a chemical pregnancy last August before we started trying and only had sex once that fertile period & now we are timing sex and doing everything right and it’s just not happening. Is there anyone out there around my age that thought it was never going to happen but did eventually happen within 12/18 months to give me hope? I know there are people who struggle for years and I admire their strength so not looking for people to tell me
it’s early days, as I know it is. I just need a bit of hope and positivity as I had a bfn today and AF is due. Seem to be surrounded by people who get their bfp in 1-3 cycles atm and it’s tough to be around

Yes, this was me! DC no 1 took 18 months (and 2 MCs along the way). DC 2 took 7 months. I was in my mid to late 30s. Really hope you get your bfp soon.

Took 11 cycles at age 38/39. It’s early days for you, 5 months isn’t a long time. Keep going. Instead of thinking about all the months you haven’t got pregnant, think about all the months to come that you could get pregnant, reframe your thoughts.

Struggled for 18 years before falling pregnant naturally a few days after my 37th birthday. It unfortunately ended in a miscarriage and I now have a child from ivf , not because of age but because we both have known fertility issues already but it can definitely happen late 30s.

Took 3 cycles with DS when I was 36 then 2 cycles for Angel baby at 38 followed by one cycle for DD at 39.

I did it. The first time, it took several cycles, about 6mos if I remember correctly and I was really starting to obsess.

I think some of why it took that long was that the birth control (cerazette) needed to leave my system fully - that could take 3 mos.
But also, I didn't understand my cycle and was making my best efforts with DH too late each month. The breakthrough was giving it the old college try a week earlier than usual b/c DH was going away.

Later with DD2 (I was 37), we were first time lucky b/c I had learned that my ovulation was in the first week or so. DH was somewhat sad because he'd hoped for 'a long campaign'.

Plenty of ladies have told me that it was when they stopped trying that things unexpectedly happened. Many's the lady has told me about a long, boozy weekend with great friends which led to success. Obvs, it's hard not to think about it but ...

best of luck :)

I got pg with Ds at 36 pretty quickly.
Nothing for 8 months and as soon as i tracked my cycle and found out when I was fertile that was that

I had dc1 at 39 after about 4 months of trying (but knew my cycle well at that point as I'd had 2 earlier miscarriages).

Then another mc after dc1 when we weren't trying (not had periods start after dc 1, so must have been first cycle). Then dc 2 conceived third cycle trying, aged 40.

The process of getting pregnant seemed relatively straightforward luckily despite my age, it was staying pregnant that I struggled with.

Good luck trying - I know lots of women who conceived within about 8 months in late 30s/ 40, so keep hopeful. I found a book called Understanding Your Fertility really helpful in tracking cycles and optimising.

Cycle 5 really isn’t that long.
Just keep positive 🫶🏼
I am 37 this will be our 9/10mth trying x
good luck ✨

I had DD1 late 2018 at nearly 35 and conceived 10 days after stopping the pill (cerazette). We then started trying again in the June 2019 with me tracking ovulation and DS wasn’t born until December 2020…. Because it took longer, we decided to just let nature take its course expecting a bit of a wait… DD2 came January 2022
so 3 babies in 3 years with me being about to turn 35 to about to turn 38
good luck 💖

It took us 11 months to get pregnant with baby number 1. I was 36 when we conceived and 37 when she was born. Conceived baby number 2 after just 2 months, and I'll be 39 when he's born. I know how frustrating it is to get a negative result every month, but try not to lose faith. You could always see a GP proactively, and also make sure you're taking pre pregnancy vitamins too, anecdotally they do seem to help.

Aged 34 it took over 12 months to conceive DS. My cycle was all over the place after coming off the pill. I had lots of strange symptoms like horrendously sore boobs after ovulation, spotting from 5dpo, bad skin.

Since having DS my cycle is super regular with no odd side effects and I’m pregnant again, conceived first month of trying aged 36.

Thank you all so so much for all your input and stories. It really helps to know that others have been successful at my age. I have just turned 36 and I have just booked a S.A. for my OH as he hasn’t been checked yet. I know my cycles really well but I wonder if I just need to take a step back and relax a bit.

thank you so much all I will read this post every time I have a down moment 🩷🩷🩷