So I’ve 2 children that were conceived naturally in under a year.
there is a backstory to #1, I was told by a dr when I was mid 20s I had pcos and would never conceive naturally, long story short got sucked into that pursued private ivf, dh had variable sperm, was told needed Icsi and wouldn’t conceive without it. Saved and then fell pregnant with #1.
assuming children wouldn’t come easy to us weren’t as careful as one should be and concerivd #2 at 18 m pp.
im 35 now, and have been ttc for 7 months with no success. I’ve had all the initial tests.
were initially reluctant to get dh to have a sperm test because of all the before (it was really stressful and i know it’s bad but a part of me was angry at him, illogical and unfair and I never voiced this but it’s how I felt).
all my tests were super duper. No structural abnormalities, hormones normal, follicular phase is on the longer side but there is no medical cause (and it always was) amh super good (higher than most 25yr old I’m told), and no pcos. Was a misdiagnosis.
we said with #3 we wouldn’t pursue ivf due to the cost but we just found out that our health insurance has a £15k lifetime max per adult for ivf. So we’d just have to pay the £100 excess each.
given time is of the essence, wwyd?
would you even do ivf for #3? Even if it was ‘free’
would you bite the bullet and go for it now, rather than hang about?