Wanting Baby No.3

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Unsure if this is the right topic to post in? Have posted elsewhere.
My husband has strong feelings about sticking with 2 children.
I understand and respect that. I am so incredibly grateful for the 2 beautiful children we do have but there is a part of me that feels like I can’t let go of having a 3rd. Of course I’m not dissatisfied with what we have I just don’t want to move past this phase of my life.
How do I talk to him about this?
We either don’t have a 3rd or we do. Will one resent the other, whatever the decision is?

It’s not really something you can discuss to the point of getting to a resolution. There is no compromise here.

2 parents want a child = have a child
2 parents don’t want a child = don’t have a child
1 parent wants a child whilst the other doesn’t = don’t have a child.

Your choices are to either accept that, or to break up the family to have a child with someone else. You can’t make someone have a child they don’t want.

As somebody who was absolutely done at 2 and on the same page as my partner, then got surprise pregnant(mc), then realised I did want a 3rd, and dh really still did definitely not. I can absolutely relate.
That being said I'm now 10 weeks pregnant so apparently there is a 4th option!

Honestly, talk to him exactly like you would as an anonymous poster. Tell him you don't want the resentment, and your honest feelings. Try really hard to take off the rose tinted glasses and see what having a 3rd would really entail, how it would affect the 2 you already have, how school runs would change, how home balance would change with having a baby on a schedule, how financially things would be different, how it would affect your relationship with husband now that you're outnumbered so on so forth.
He may just suggest getting a puppy like mine did at first.....
But at the end of it, if everything is pointing to the reality of having a 3rd isn't feasible then you'll have to grieve that possibility of a 3rd baby im afraid, or given a little bit of time your partner may just come around to the idea!