When to start TTC

[sarahspeaking]

Hello everyone,

My partner and I are so excited to start TTC. I came off the pill early 2024 and my cycles have been long and irregular since then. Because of this I'm a little worried it will take us a while to conceive.

We get married in June and I feel like I'm flip flopping with the idea of trying in May.

I've heard so many horror stories of first trimester (I would potentially be 6 weeks at the wedding) so I don't know if its crazy to consider or will I regret not trying if it does take us a while. There's also the chance that I'll feel fine or that it won't work first time so I could be worrying over nothing.

Does anyone regret not TTC sooner? If not for the wedding we'd have already started.

TIA

I’ve seen lots of posts of here that recommend “do not wait” because people have had issues TTC. Unfortunately nobody can see into the future so no one will ever know how long it will take them and what will happen along the way.

Everyone has their own journey and if you are having doubts or worries about the first trimester June is only one month later than May - but ultimately it’s whatever you are your partner decide is best for you.

If you do hold off then enjoy all the wedding magic and celebrations and then enjoy a new journey of TTC after the wedding ☺️

Six weeks was the absolute worst time of all my pregnancies. I would not have wanted to have a shower, let alone get married! For the sake of a month I would avoid this.
Unless you/your partner are approaching 40 or have low fertility or you're hugely overweight or whatever. Then I might be tempted to risk having the worst day of my life on my wedding day just so I wouldn't miss even one chance.

For the sake of a couple of months, I would wait.

I’m definitely normally in the “do it straight away” camp due to problems I had, but that’s when people are talking about a longer period of time. For one month I say wait. If you were fortunate to conceive first time you might feel rubbish, but equally if you don’t you might be upset, which wouldn’t be nice at your wedding. I don’t think I was the only one who was devastated every month I didn’t conceive.
Congratulations on your marriage OP, and wishing you luck on the TTC journey.

I would wait since it's just a few months. And you don't want to deal with either the stress of TTC, disappointment of a negative test or juggling a pregnancy with your wedding. Starting a few months sooner doesn't increase your chances of pregnancy unless you're 39+. Let your first month of ttc be post wedding when you're happy and loved up and will really enjoy the process without any distractions.

Also if you had a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy that would completely ruin your wedding day, for that alone I wouldn't risk it!

I would wait for the sake of a couple of weeks just incase. You're not going to regret a few weeks but if it's a big wedding, I wouldn't risk morning sickness/miscarriage etc.

My wedding is also soon and I've been trying for a few months. I decided to try for early so I would be in the second trimester if it happened and was going to stop this month... but I haven't. If it happens this month it will right in the middle of the first trimester and is a bit of a concern, but would (hopefully) be in a better place for the honeymoon. I might stop after this month to avoid that.

As it's so close now, I'd maybe say wait. You could even start trying a few weeks before the wedding if drinking wasn't an issue for you. But I also understand the urge and it depends what's most important to you. I don't want to feel rubbish on my wedding day, but I would take it as it comes if it meant I had a pregnancy as a result.

Also some great points about miscarriage and/or disappointment. I would no underestimate the impact that even a negative test can have on how you feel and what you have the mental capacity for.

Whatever you choose - good luck! :D

Thank you all for your responses, they've definitely given me some food for thought! I think I've been thinking quite negatively about TTC, already worrying about regretting missing a month when really one month is nothing.

I think I'll wait until June so then I can fully enjoy the wedding and honeymoon and just see what happens!

I really regret waiting, it’s been a year TTC and finally got pregnant which has ended in a Chemical. Depends how old you are too, I’m 33 which is still reasonably young but I want 2 or 3 children ideally and the longer no1 is taking the less time there is for others.

On the flip side, you can really use the time you’re waiting to try to work on lifestyle, and you could do further testing. I really recommend reading It Starts With the Egg. We changed our diet, I took supplements, we reduced toxins in the home, and reduced alcohol which made a difference. It improved my cycles (and eventually we did fall pregnant), and they say it takes a few months to improve the egg quality and sperm so it would be good to start now, so you’ve got the best chance when you’re ready ☺️

We are also getting married in June and waiting until June to 'try' properly. I am preparing myself in advance with the supplements, dietary changes, lifestyle changes etc (read It Starts With The Egg) and tracking BBT so I know when I am ovulating so that everything is lined up nicely for June. I have also had fertility testing done previously so I know that we will have issues, therefore have been doing things to help those problems already in the hope we will have a better chance! I am really excited to enjoy my incredible wedding that I've spent so much time/money organising and then have the excitement of TTC afterwards - putting a positive spin on it deffo helps!