TTC with recurrent miscarriages

[Figtree11]

Just looking for others in a similar situation to myself as I feel a bit lonely on this journey.

A bit about me -
TTC for my first baby for coming up to 2 years
3 missed miscarriages all found at 10 or 12 weeks
1st loss - no idea why
2nd loss - partial molar
3rd loss - this was only 2 weeks ago so waiting on genetic testing

I’m already under the recurrent miscarriage clinic & will have another appt once genetic testing comes back. Already had tests for sticky blood, thyroid etc. And was on progesterone.

I’m not actively TTC at the moment as we’re waiting for the test results before trying again. But feel I have no one to talk to anymore about how hard this journey to becoming a mum is, and if it will ever happen for me. Everyone around me is moving forwards while I feel left behind.

Whilst no-one can say what will happen for you, I wanted to give you a bit of hope.
I had 3 x miscarriages, the first two were prior to 12 weeks, but the middle one was borderline stillborn, as she died at 18.5 weeks gestation.

I had everything against me, no previous children, older mum, bicornuate uterus, PCOS, needed clomid to ovulate.
It was 4 long years & I had every test all of which came back normal. I had given up hope.

My fourth pregnancy was really tough & I expected a further loss…however, it stuck & now my beloved 14 year old DS is sitting at the end of the sofa!

Recurrent miscarriage is a living nightmare & the scars remain. My heart goes out to you. Stay hopeful!
I am sure others who are going through the same thing will join your thread - I just wanted to wish you every bit of luck!

1x missed miscarriage
1x chemical pregnancy
1x blighted ovum
1x TFMR at 16 weeks

currently just had my 4th surgical management for retained products and now scared about scar tissue as I’ve had so many procedures. Awaiting a follow up hysteroscopy to check and also been referred to genetics from my TFMR, desperate to ttc again but aware it might take a while as I need to get the all clear.

It’s the toughest journey I’ve ever been on and not many understand. I want to just go to sleep and wake up when I have a healthy baby.

I’ve had 3 confirmed MCs but know I’ve had more. Finally been referred to recurrent miscarriage and have my first appointment in June. Absolutely terrified as just don’t know what to expect.

its such a heart breaking journey and so hard to see others fall so easily.

you’re not alone ❤️

@icouldusesomehelphere thank you, it really helps to hear that it can work out. I’m struggling to find any hope at the moment, but just have to try and stay positive

@Notsure31 i’m sorry you are going through this too. I think lots of people have multiple surgeries, but I know it’s easy for me to say not to worry. Weirdly I don’t feel in a rush to TTC at the moment, but I’m only 2 weeks post medical management

@DoraBella88 sorry that you’ve experienced this. I hope you get some easy to fix answers from the recurrent miscarriage clinic. Even though my last pregnancy didn’t work out, I did find the place I was under very supportive with additional scans. Have you had any genetic testing done on your third MC? I’ve a long wait until results for mine

Hi just sending you lots of love .

I am 40 had a chemical, caught the month after MMC at 9 weeks, chemical on my 40th birthday 4 months after the MMC.

I am still TTC and trying to stay hopeful, I just don’t know how I will feel if and when I become pregnant again. It will be very tough.

here if you want to chat x

Sending so much love the pain is awful. But to give you some hope .
I had 3 miscarriages before I had my son , the only difference with him was progesterone from 4 weeks.
Without going into detail after him i was found to have endo , fibroids and adenomyosis plus other problems , I was told I wouldn't have another . By miracle ( no Dr could belive it ) I got pregnant last year , I started progesterone at 5 weeks again and baby was born early (31 weeks as I had sepsis) but healthy. Sending you strength and i hope your day comes soon .
I really think progesterone led to carrying mine x

@Figtree11 no genetic testing done so far. I ended up under EPU after complications (another pregnancy) following miscarriage. I knew I was pregnant again but because I was never told to test out the previous pregnancy they wouldn’t count that new one as a loss. They were amazing care wise and promised me progesterone if I was to fall pregnant again. When it finally happened I called them for it and they said I didn’t fit their guidelines so “just wait and see what happens”. Following my last MC in Feb I got my referral to recurrent MC.
im bloody terrified. Do you mind me asking what your first appointment was like? I have huge anxiety over hospitals as it is.

@Joleyjojo i’m sorry for your losses. It’s really hard balancing staying hopeful alongside the stress & worry. Weirdly I’ve found this third loss the easiest to deal with so far, which makes me sad that I’m becoming so used to miscarriage that I’m finding this one easier to cope with. But I guess I’m only 2 weeks in so it might hit me yet. I hope it won’t be long til you get pregnant again & that it’s successful

@Alexandds thank you, it really helps to hear good news stories. I was on progesterone for the pregnancy I just lost, but hoping in my next consultant appointment they can do something else to help me. Such amazing news you got your miracle. I hope I get mine soon

@DoraBella88 oh that’s so frustrating they wouldn’t give you progesterone when you rang back up. Hopefully at the clinic you will get much more support.
To be honest my first appointment was really underwhelming. I was only in there 10 mins. I’d had some blood tests done before the appt that they requested, so we went through those along with my history. I did get diagnosed with pcos there & then and put on metformin straight away & with a prescription of progesterone for if I got pregnant. Then had some more blood tests done & then a follow up appt a month later. I’m hoping my next appt will shed some more light & look into things further.
I know how scary going to hospitals can be, but I really hope the clinic can help you. After this most recent loss, it has really helped my headspace in knowing that I will be looked after and they are wanting to help

@Figtree11 oh that’s good to know so I can maybe breath a little about the appointment.
my husband has MS and we really had to have a serious chat about whether or not to conceive naturally. My husbands initial reaction to his diagnosis was if it was hereditary then he didn’t want his own biological children, which I respect as he didn’t want to pass it down and to his children. But after an appointment with his neurologist we decided to really go for it.
I don’t know if progesterone being promised has made me think that’s the magic fix but I now know I can get pregnant but I just can’t stay pregnant.

Hope you’re doing ok hun xx

@DoraBella88 yeah it really wasn’t a scary appointment at all ☺️ if anything, I wished it wasn’t so rushed & that I was in there longer!
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through the uncertainty of conceiving but great you’re both on the same page & had advice from the neurologist. I’ve heard progesterone has worked for lots of people, hopefully after your appointment you’ll have a bit more insight & have a good plan of action going forwards.
I’m doing a bit better today thank you - yesterday was in just a spiral of constant doom scrolling. Hopefully my results & next appointment will be in June, so similar timing to you

I’m so sorry you’ve been through this. My friend had 3x MC / ectopic. She gave birth to a healthy baby girl in October 2024.

i hope you get your rainbow baby soon x

@Figtree11 wanted to comment as I recognise we have spoken on one of my threads after my second loss I believe. I’ve just had 3rd confirmed and been looking for threads to understand if people wait whilst referred for investigations or keep ttc. My brain tells me not to try as it’s so painful and awful to keep going through but the thought of having to wait months and then maybe still not knowing. All during this time when friends announce and have their babies.
I really felt what you said, I feel like I’m getting left behind also. Like no one sees me as a mum as I have not had children yet but I’ve been pregnant and expierenced fhat feeling 3 times in 18 months:(
did you start ttc again once you had the tests back?

Oh @Hopingforrainbow2025 I am so sorry you are going through this again. It’s heartbreaking. I got referred after my second loss, and as the wait for my appointment was 6 months we decided to carry on TTC. As it happens I didn’t conceive in that time anyway. I had my third loss results back & it was genetically normal, so no cause found. Are you in the process of being referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic?
I am so sorry you are going through this - I started back TTC again about a month or so ago, so back to the journey again

@Figtree11

I am getting referred this time and also they want to test baby to know if there was an abnormality or not. Haven’t even started to miscarry yet though as it was MMC and my body is not recognising it so just trying to weigh up my options. I really don’t want surgery again but also can’t have this drag on for weeks.

I feel like I’m already contemplating that decision of do we ttc or wait months to see if any answers. I feel like I am prepared to pause for a few to get some tests done (I think I might go private) and then if they reveal anything I can then know where I stand. But I’m frustrated that I feel like the rest of the year is a write off now if I need fo wait for tests.
I know the ttc after loss is just the worst club to be in, it really is draining and hate having to get periods and deal with it all over and over again:(

at age 35 ish, three early miscarriages after ttc for four years.
after the first two I was told off for carrying on ttc, however I didn’t feel there was a good reason to stop so I didn’t.
The guidance was changing then anyway, so do what you feel happiest with.
couldn’t talk to DH, ended up separating.
Met DH2 and had more success
1 live (DD 13 yrs old)
three early mc,
1 live (DS 11 yrs old)

Can you talk to DH?, I’m sure he will be hurting too

fingers crossed for you xx

I think progesterone has helped many women to hold their pregnancies. Maybe that can be something you speak with your Dr about. You can get progesterone tablets prescribed for you to have on hand. I have some in my cabinet, because I was told I have low progesterone levels when I wasn’t even pregnant.
additionally you should test test test with first response early detection starting at 7dpo and if you see even the faintest of faintest of lines (literally hawk eye searching the test- take it apart- the whole 9) start taking the progesterone pills. Maybe give it a shot, most doctors are weird about preventative and only seek to treat you once you’ve lost something. 😢
hugs and baby dust.

Sorry for your MC's.

Have you had a thyroid, Progesterone, hysteroscopy, APS, adenomyosis, endometriosis tests?

If these are clear, you should see a Reproductive Immunologist. It's a new fertility field specialising in recurring miscarriage and implantation failure. Considering that you have 2 MC with genetically normal embryos, I'd think this is what you need.

I had 3 MC's of genetically normal embryos, saw a Reproduction Immunologist and finally could have my baby. They check blood tests, check NK cells, lymphocytes and many other details, give you medicine while TTC. This journey it's really hard and Fertility Specialists / OB's are not much help with recurring miscarriages.

@Florizelloid i know your message may be aimed at the OP but just wanted to jump in to say you shouldn’t feel bad fhat you kept trying. After my second loss I was told that this was common and sometimes they don’t know why but it takes 3rd or 4th time so you may as well roll the dice. Then I obviously did and have lost it again so feel more annoyed. But they can’t tell you off for trying, it’s really hard not to as you are determined to get your baby.

im glad you had your rainbows in the end. Did you ever discover anything wrong?

@Figtree11 I just wondered how you are and how journey of ttc is going?

Hi @Hopingforrainbow2025 i’m so sorry I never responded to your last message, I don’t remember seeing it at all.
Not good unfortunately- I had another MMC in October. Currently waiting on cytogenetic testing before seeing what’s next. How are you doing?

Hi - I'm so sorry for everyone's losses and pain they have gone through.

I have had 4 losses.
1st loss - Jan 2023 at nearly 5 weeks
2nd loss - April 2023 at nearly 8 weeks
3rd loss - October 2023 at nearly 11 weeks
4th loss - February 2024 at just over 4 weeks but this may have been a chemical.

I lost all hope. Done some self healing and decided I wasn't holding my life back anymore - got a new job, we signed up for a new car and the next day I found out I was pregnant. My baby boy was born in March 2025. I did try to be healthier in my food choices, trying to get fitter and done acupuncture. I continued the acupuncture until I was 24 weeks. I was on progesterone until around 28 weeks and aspirin until I was 36 weeks.

It was truly the hardest journey I've been through - harder than finding a partner.

What I learnt is to be kind of myself. My body wasn't failing me, it wasn't just bad luck, it was timing - the time needed to be right for the baby that will always be yours to come into this world. I truly believe that we don't choose when for a child is born, they choose us. For some it is the first try and their bundle of joy is born, for some they struggle with TTC, for some (and like me) its trying to keep the pregnancy, but it will happen.

Wishing you all the very best and baby dust.

Xx

Hi @Figtree11sorry to hear about your losses.

This also happened to me. 1st chemical 2nd Partial Molar 3rd early miscarriage. I already had 3 children though but I was trying being much older at 39. I am 40 now. I worked on my egg quality and bought the book “It starts with the egg” lots of tips to work on egg quality and how to improve your chances of conception. I am now pregnant with baby number 4 after a lot of heart ache, never thinking we would be lucky enough to have another again. It did happen. If you are older, egg quality issues definitely make sense but can be corrected! X

I lost 15 pregnancies, thankfully no. 16 is 11 months old today, thanks to reproductive immunology. Worth looking into if you can. Recurrent loss is so hard.

Thank you all for the kind words. I found out this fourth loss was Turner’s syndrome. My consultant has said to try again, but I’m very worried about doing so. I’m not sure how much more I can take.