No faint line but can i still hope?

[queenie1]

Been trying to conceive for a year now. During that time I have had two miscarriages but continue to live in hope that it will work out one of these days... Since the miscarriages, my cycles are pretty irregular, spanning anything from 25 to 35 days. I'm on day 29 today, had a feeling I might have been pregnant and did a test this morning. It's negative with not even the faintest of lines. Nothing. Is it time to give up hope this month, and resign myself to another month of increasingly bad, functional sex? What do you experienced people think?

now its been a yr, should you approach your gp to see if there is a problem? I am sure it will all work out and you will be holding your baby before you no it. Keep positive.

xx

Not sure about approaching the GP yet - its not like I have had a problem conceiving...just wondered whether a complete negative result on day 29 means there is no hope I may actually be pregnant this month. This whole thing is driving me mad...

tbh, although it's possible you might be pregnant, speaking as someone who has been down the road of "maybe I've tested to early" and turned out not to be pregnant, I would be inclined to just assume that you're not pregnant this month. Imo it's better than the constant thinking am i/aren't i and spending a fortune on tests which will probably be negative.

Yes - I'm sure you're right and in my heart of heart's I already know now that I'm not. It's just so disappointing...

queenie1 - don't want to falsely raise your hopes because it must be an unbearable rollercoaster - but it is possible to get a false negative - I had two with absolutely no lines before I finally got a positive with my second dd (who is now 3). I was testing just before my period was due. I got the postive a day or two after it was due. In my case I had unmistakeable pregnancy symptoms (an overwhelming and weird taste in my mouth 24 hours a day, that I only get when pregnant), so I kind of suspected I was just being impatient with the tests. The only thing is to wait a few days and try again.

Thanks - hopes raising is good, and I'm very much used to that rollercoaster. Guess I can only just wait and see if my period turns up in the next week and test again if not.

In the likely event that it is negative though, would you recommend ovulation tests for the next time round, particularly as I am now pretty irregular. Have never used them and suspect they are a bit of a waste of money. What do you good people think?

queenie1 - I'm the wrong person to ask really, but I've have thought if your cycle is irregular ovulation kits may well help identify your most likely period to conceive. Though I did also read that the best time to conceive is before ovulation, so no point restricting action to after the event.

Others will have far more info - and there are some 'trying to conceive threads' here with lots of experts.

Also wanted to say, the fact that you've conceived twice in a year is a good sign, though I know it hasn't worked out.

Wishing you all the best.

Thanks Pidge. Welcome the supportive comments in what has been one hell of a year. Will just have to try and seduce DH every other night all of next month (not easy as he is a total stress-head work-a-holic), or the month after that, or after that...until, oneday, we manage to successfully conceive and I then manage to keep it going. Whoever thought it would be so hard to get successfully pregnant?