First Time TTC

[TSF13]

Hi

I’m new to this so thought this would be a good way to hear other people’s opinions/thoughts/stories!

I’m 29 years old and me and my fiancé are trying for our first baby (he already has a 6 year old son from a previous relationship). I stopped taking the contraceptive pill after being on it for about 12 years back in August 2023. I am now on cycle 8 since coming off and I have been testing for ovulation and tracking my BBT as well as taking Pregnacare conception vitamins since stopping the pill. It was all really fun for the first few months but when I hit cycle 5, it started feeling tedious, overwhelming and draining. Nothings spontaneous anymore and whenever my partner isn’t feeling in the mood when I’m in my fertile window, I get really worried that we’re missing opportunities and get upset about it. I know that it’s perfectly normal for it to take a while, especially after coming off the contraceptive pill but it’s now the worry of something being wrong that gets more and more with each month of negatives - I’ve always wanted to be a mum ever since I was little and it has always been my absolute worst fear to not be able to have children. My friends that have had babies all just fell pregnant without even trying or it took 1-3 months so it’s really difficult to not compare!

I was just wondering how long it took other people to get pregnant and if anyone has any advice?

Don't worry OP! These things can just take time and if you've got regular periods back with no obvious issues then just keep going.

My DD took 7 months/6 cycles and I remember feeling exactly the same as you and was also surrounded by people falling pregnant so easily - it feels really isolating but you're really not alone.

As frustrating as the advice is, the best thing is to try not to hyper focus on it. Easier said than done because I'm terrible for that!

Do what you can to distract yourself and just make sure you've dtd often enough to cover you for the month. If it all gets too much take a month off tracking.

For me it was the chaos of moving house that was enough of a focus shifter 😅 this time around I'm training for a half marathon.

I think I may just be extremely lucky to have gotten pregnant first try but I feel like what I did may have helped me? Both me and my bf were on conception vitamins for a month before ovulation, I did yoga (really helped me destress and feel connected to my body) and he did swimming, cut out caffeine and excess sugar as well as alcohol. I feel like the healthy diet really helped our bodies have a lot more energy. I tracked my ovulation, the day of my period I started taking evening primrose oil and stopped when I hit peak ovulation, then after ovulation tried seed cycling and foods that help progesterone, I ate a lot of pomegranate 😂 we dtd every other day 5 days before predicted ovulation and 2 times on my peak. I really did feel like I helped because we never used contraception (or with my only other relationship) and weren’t careful so I thought I was infertile honestly as I have never gotten pregnant and fertility issues runs in my family. Hope it may help you a little xx

I feel exactly the same as you! I am 27 ttc our first baby, came off the pill 6 months ago after being on it for 11 years and on cycle 5 of actively trying to conceive now. I had been feeling excited about it all until this cycle and now I’m just very overwhelmed, worried and fed up with it. My friends are like yours and fell pregnant really quickly and worse bit is they don’t know I’m ttc so they keep telling me how quickly they fell and that I will be the same when we try! I know it will be worth it in the end but it seems unfair some people get pregnant so easily. I don’t really have any advice but I hope knowing you’re not alone in your feelings brings some comfort and hopefully we get our babies soon x ✨