Ovulation after second trimester loss

FunKhakiTurtle · 2025-03-06T09:57:15+00:00

Hi, I recently went into labour at 17 weeks and lost my baby girl. This was 8 weeks ago. I'm 37 and I feel like time is running out, so I'm trying to track my cycle again. I feel like the only thing to make me feel better will to be pregnant again. Not to replace her at all, I just long for another baby. I'm also terrified i'm too old and it won't happen again now. I think I had my 1st period after the bleed from delivery. I'm now on cycle day 16 and no sign of ovulation. LH strips are so light. Before I'd normally ovulate on cycle day 12/13. Has anyone else been through this? When did you start to ovulate again? Did it take a few cycles? Thank you

Dinosaurus86 · 06/03/2025 10:04

I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you have plenty of support. I also lost a baby girl at 17 weeks. I got a positive pregnancy test 4 months after I had her - I’m not quite sure now if it was the third or fourth cycle. It was the first cycle that had seemed normal - the previous ones had been all over the place. I was 36 when I lost the baby and 37 when I got pregnant again.

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FunKhakiTurtle · 06/03/2025 10:22

Dinosaurus86 · 06/03/2025 10:04

I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you have plenty of support. I also lost a baby girl at 17 weeks. I got a positive pregnancy test 4 months after I had her - I’m not quite sure now if it was the third or fourth cycle. It was the first cycle that had seemed normal - the previous ones had been all over the place. I was 36 when I lost the baby and 37 when I got pregnant again.

Thanks for the reply. I'm sorry for your loss also. It's one of the most difficult and painful things to go through. I'm glad you had another pregnancy.
Sorry if it's too personal, but did you track your ovulation in the cycles prior to the positive pregnancy test? Did you ovulate straight away?

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Dinosaurus86 · 07/03/2025 17:03

No I had decided not to track for the first few months, but I was pretty familiar with my cycle having tracked for a long time previously. I strongly suspect that I didn’t ovulate in the first cycle. I think I probably did in the second but very late.

Dinosaurus86 · 07/03/2025 17:11

I had been advised by one of the midwives not to try again for a few months - for emotional rather than physical reasons - but the only thing I could think about was being pregnant again - not to replace my other little girl, as you say, just that I didn’t know how else to cope. I suppose not tracking was my attempt not to put too much pressure on ttc. With hindsight I think my body just needed a few months to recover, and probably I could have done with a bit longer as I had terrible bleeding through my next pregnancy and I’ve always wondered if that was related. I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I think it’s fairly normal for it to take a few months at least for everything to go back to some kind of normal but in the thick of it, it’s very hard to deal with. I was utterly paralysed by grief for quite some time. It is still there now (my second daughter is now 8 months) but more manageable.

ThinkingOfAnother · 07/03/2025 21:09

Hello
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a little boy at 19 weeks. I fell pregnant two months later, it was the first month we tried/ I tracked ovulation. My daughter is now 17 months.
As an aside, I would say that I’m glad I got pregnant again so quickly; like you, I knew that it was the only thing that would make me feel better. But I was so laser focused on the pregnancy, I didn’t really deal with the grief as well as I should have, despite having counselling during the pregnancy.
Wishing you all the best. 2 plus years on now, it does get easier, but I can’t imagine a time when I won’t think of him every day. My heart goes out to you.

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FunKhakiTurtle · 08/03/2025 19:32

Dinosaurus86 · 07/03/2025 17:11

I had been advised by one of the midwives not to try again for a few months - for emotional rather than physical reasons - but the only thing I could think about was being pregnant again - not to replace my other little girl, as you say, just that I didn’t know how else to cope. I suppose not tracking was my attempt not to put too much pressure on ttc. With hindsight I think my body just needed a few months to recover, and probably I could have done with a bit longer as I had terrible bleeding through my next pregnancy and I’ve always wondered if that was related. I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I think it’s fairly normal for it to take a few months at least for everything to go back to some kind of normal but in the thick of it, it’s very hard to deal with. I was utterly paralysed by grief for quite some time. It is still there now (my second daughter is now 8 months) but more manageable.

It must be so hard to go through another pregnancy after a later loss. It does terrify me but it also terrifies me that it might not happen again as well.
I finally got my positive opk this morning on cycle 18. I do feel a little bit better knowing my cycle is starting to get back on track. Like you said though, I don't know if I am ready emotionally to be trying again. It's still very raw and I have good and bad days. Time is not on my side though.

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FunKhakiTurtle · 08/03/2025 19:37

ThinkingOfAnother · 07/03/2025 21:09

Hello
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a little boy at 19 weeks. I fell pregnant two months later, it was the first month we tried/ I tracked ovulation. My daughter is now 17 months.
As an aside, I would say that I’m glad I got pregnant again so quickly; like you, I knew that it was the only thing that would make me feel better. But I was so laser focused on the pregnancy, I didn’t really deal with the grief as well as I should have, despite having counselling during the pregnancy.
Wishing you all the best. 2 plus years on now, it does get easier, but I can’t imagine a time when I won’t think of him every day. My heart goes out to you.

Hi, I'm glad you went on to have another pregnancy and everything worked out for you. It must have been such an anxious time. I hope it happens for me. If it does, I know I will find it difficult and I will be a nervous wreck. I just need another baby in my arms.

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Dinosaurus86 · 08/03/2025 19:40

I would be a terrible hypocrite if I suggested that you wait to ttc again. Also, I think the next pregnancy would be terrifying whenever it happens - and although I did struggle, I did also find being pregnant again helpful in many ways. It was easier to look to the future etc. Harder once I started to bleed and I spent a lot of the pregnancy on bed rest. So there are pros and cons to trying immediately and to waiting. I also felt time was not on my side so wanted to get on with it. It is a shame that I was never really able to enjoy pregnancy again - rather it was something to achieve and then endure. I had counselling throughout, and did relax a little bit once I was a decent stretch past viability.

Notsure31 · 08/03/2025 19:56

Following- no advice but I’m about to go through a TFMR at 16 weeks. Want to try again as soon as possible. Been advised to wait until I have at least 1 period but I’m not sure if there’s any medical reason for this other than to date next pregnancy.

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FunKhakiTurtle · 10/03/2025 09:16

Notsure31 · 08/03/2025 19:56

Following- no advice but I’m about to go through a TFMR at 16 weeks. Want to try again as soon as possible. Been advised to wait until I have at least 1 period but I’m not sure if there’s any medical reason for this other than to date next pregnancy.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. I hope you have lots of support. Sending love!

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