Almost ready to move on from ttc #2

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Part of me thinks I haven’t tried hard enough though. Been trying for 2 years, more focused since Sept 23. Had a loss at 12 weeks (suspected molar pregnancy ruled out thankfully) and an early one at 5.5w and I think a chemical too. Am 42 in Aug, husband 44. I’m more keen than him and he has ruled out ivf as have I really mostly due to finances and he is alright with remaining as we are but has been trying I’ll admit for my sake more than his. GP bloods are within Ok range. Haven’t tested AMH. I mentally am struggling every month and generally feel a little low. I know it’s irrational, am so lucky to have our 3yo. I was going to try and be a bit more relaxed about it for a couple of months however that really doesn’t work for me, am always aware of when my fertile period is. I know no one can tell me it’s OK to move on but somehow I think that’s what I’m asking ridiculous as it is.

I seem to post this on lots of threads but there are two books that really helped me - Fertile Thinking, which has a chapter on how to consider whether it's time to stop, and Parenting your only child which dispels a lot of the guilt that xan be associated with having just one child. I can say there is peacento be found in stopping at the right time but only you and your partner can decide when that is.

Absolutely grieve not having a second of that is where you're at.
It's a tricky one to go through, you can always stop for a few months with the mindset of stopping forever, and if you need to reopen that chapter of ttc later on you can

@UnaOfStormhold ive seen the Parenting an Only Child book just have pressed buy yet. I’ll look up the other book too, thank you for your recommendations. I do want to bring it up with him (again) and I will over wend.
And thankyou @LaTable a really good way of approaching it. I will try and go with that mindset for a couple of months and see how we go after chat with husband. A friend has just msgd that she’s pregnant with her 3rd in same space of time since we both had a first and am delighted for them and also it felt like a punch in the gut so not sure I’m 100% done yet