It was an up and down process in a lot of ways.
First scan then said they were worried about my number of follicles and needed to put me on a high dose of stims straight away. I would then have one scan where they said I was fine, followed by one scan where they would be really negative about how I was responding- seemed quite dependent on who was doing the scan.
They made me stim for an extra day and switched me to a freeze all cycle the scan before EC, which was the right thing to do but was communicated in a way that again made me worry about how I was responding.
Appointments at UCL generally ran late by around 30-60mins, worst on a Monday.
On the up side they monitored me really regularly, including full service at weekends which a surprising amount of clinics don't seem to do. The weekend treatment, egg collection, embryo development and transfer is all done by CRGH which has the best results in London, everything they did was excellent, and we will go private with them if the NHS cycle doesn't work.
Ultimately I had 11 eggs collected, 9 mature, 7 fertilised, froze 3 embryos on day 6 (3B+B+, 3B+B-, 1-2 B+B-). Considering I am 40 i think this was actually a great result. And the whole way through, looking back, I think I had great results for my age, but maybe felt they were comparing me to other patients, rather than a realistic result for me, if you see what I mean? That being said on the medical time they were great. Very good at responding to email queries etc, just not the time to give the emotional support that a private clinic might offer its customers.
We are having our first FET this month so we will see how it ends!
In the end I am glad we went through the NHS. We did look at going private first, but I don't think I would have chosen a the best clinic based on my knowledge at the time. As you say the first cycle is a bit of a trial, and having had the experience has been so helpful in preparing for potentially going through it again. I'm much clearer about what is going to happen etc. I know it's frustrating but I think it's probably worth waiting, especially if you will presumably qualify for three cycles- it is a saving of c.20k vs going private.
I would also recommend getting your DH to work on his sperm quality and ask for a referral to Urology in the meantime. My partner did the following:
2 units per week alcohol limit
Vital DHA
Vitamin D
Ova Advanced Sperm tablets (might not be the actual name!)/ the Zita West for men tablets
Might add an antioxidant if we go again.
Went from 0% normal morphology to 2% which is still less than normal but a big improvement, and the embryologist said they were able to get good sperm for ICSI.
That was a bit of an essay but I hope it helps!