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Should we try for #3????

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greenbeanie · 08/05/2008 14:46

Hi, I have 6yr old and 2.5yr old sons. We have always wanted to have 3 children and now seems like the right time. How do you decide what to do? Depending on what mood I am in I swing from hugely broody to wondering if #3 is the right thing to do. (Often depending on if the boys have been a nightmare during the day [hmmm])I think part of it is that we are moving out of the baby stage with ds2 and I know that there will be the usual sleeplessnights etc, although would love to have another baby. Would really welcome some advice from anyone else who has experienced this

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lulabelle · 08/05/2008 15:28

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FruitynNutty · 08/05/2008 16:50

YES!

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greenbeanie · 08/05/2008 19:25

Hi lulabelle, could you send the link again for your thread - thanks

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Annie210905 · 09/05/2008 12:35

I have two sons around the same age?my eldest is 7?and I feel exactly the same. One of my friends has recently had her third, although she left quite a large gap between her second and third. She has two girls of 9 and 7 and two weeks ago had a little boy. I popped round this week to catch up with her (and have a cuddle with Samuel) and all I can say is that she is the best advert to have another. Yes, she's tired but you could tell she is sooooo happy. And her two daughters can be quite a handful, even at their age, but they too have fallen head over heels in love with their brother. Obviously, it's a very personal decision but she had talked about having another for ages and then decided last summer that if they didn't at least try it would be something her and husband would regret. Looking at her now, I'm sure it's the best decision she's ever made!

Playingthewaitinggame · 09/05/2008 13:01

If it helps I am 1 of 3. I was 5 yrs 10 mnths when my baby sister was born and my brother was 3 yrs 5mnths. I adore being one of three, we had a great childhood being a gang of 3! All 3 of us are still close and the age differences is great, my brother and sister are honestly 2 of my closest friends.

Meeely2 · 09/05/2008 13:11

greenbeanie - I have twin boys aged 3.5 and we are trying for no. 3 now. Not sure wot my rationale was, but DH and I had discussed on and off that we just couldn't afford anymore and wouldn't it be nice when the boys went to school the money we would save on childcare etc etc.

One day he came home and asked if I wanted him to have the snip (I had taken myself off the pill due to weight gain and we were just being 'careful' up to this point) and I burst into tears. The finality of him doing that and therefore NOT being able to have more even if we wanted to was enough to convince me I was actually desp for another and had been in denial.

After long talk, seems he was desp for another too, but didn't want to say in case I said I didn't and he was left disappointed - so came up with elaborate plan to say he would have the snip to force my hand as it were and it worked!

ASk yourself how you would feel if you couldn't have anymore, that should give you the answer you need about whether no. 3 is a good idea or not.

(I have added ishoos now as I not keen on odd numbers of kids - so I may have to convince DH in a few more years for another to even things out - or i could just end up with twins this time - eeeek )

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greenbeanie · 09/05/2008 14:10

Hi playingthewaitinggame, I am one of 3 and so is dh so I think we feel that is what makes a family.

Meely2 I think you are right I would be devastated if we couldn't have anymore - so I guess there lies the answer.!!

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jaype · 13/05/2008 23:54

Good to hear that bigger age differences work okay. We are ttc no3 (have 4yr 3 mo and 2yr 3mo old at the moment). Have been ttc for 5 months but not a sausage so far (or a baby!). I told dp (who is a bit ambivalent about no 3) we should try for another five months then give up or the age gap with the youngest would be too big, but he actually said we should keep going ~. Good to know the poor thing won't be a lonely outcast!!

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