11dpo

[jennacx]

Is anyone else around the same point? I've been testing and think I can see a faint line, trying not to get too excited

Love this!
we all started together and look at us now! ❤️❤️❤️🫶🏼✨

Have you had a gender scan or keeping everything a suprise?! Xx

What is it you do? How did work take it?
rubbish how they have not been supportive! 😤
Fingers crossed you sort out a position somewhere.. will they still cover maternity pay if it’s a new contract? X

It’s unrelated to the pregnancy. I have a permanent job in my Government department but my current role is coming to an end as it’s business area funded and the programme I’m overseeing an evaluation on has stopped, ergo the role also stops at the end of September. Ironically the evaluation itself will continue into early next year, but sadly the money for my post is separate from the money for the evaluation. So I’ve been given a list of teams with vacancies at my level and basically have to arrange a series of chats until I can find a mutually agreeable role. To be honest I’m gutted I’m not staying in my team…

So lovely to hear from you @ElGraham and so glad you and baby are doing well 🥰 wow 26 weeks has flown by! Xx
@SCK2024I’m glad your OH has explained how he’s feeling, the whole situation is a lot to deal with sometimes even for men. I think mine is still being cautious about getting excited which I totally am too, we’re both playing it very cool 😆
How awful @curliegirlieI'm really hoping you manage to sort it, that’s the last thing you need to be worrying about. Make sure you’re taking good care of yourself xxx

How is everyone doing? I think I’m 13dpo today and line is getting darker 🥰

YAYYYYYY! 🙏🙏🤩
How are you feeling? X

Feeling good so far 🤞🏼 how are you? Have you been testing still? Xx

Stopped testing after I got back from being away, I don’t want to torture myself into another thing, accepting it was a strong positive was enough for me 🤞🏼🫶🏼

I have my 1st appt on 21st at my GP then a early scan day after I come back off another holiday on the 2nd Sept (8wks)

Im feeling okay, no symptoms other than feeling something is there, tender boobs again today.

I think my emotions are more in touch with me lately OH is getting on my nerves a lot 😂 feel as though I’m not getting any attention from him, always on his phone, but kept it to myself, I know I’m being silly x

I’m back to square one.
I'm upset and been crying, me and OH haven’t been getting on, Infact he’s been distant and hurtful with some things he has said to me.
Reminds me of how my ex was with my first born, which he knows about.
I feel so lonely, I’ve told him I shouldn’t be stressed at this point where we are due to risks & he truely doesn’t care, even said he I’m chatting shit.

we have always gotten on, never argued or fallen out, never had any problems.

all of a sudden I just feel he is present but I’m just not feeling loved or that I exist.

he isn’t the greatest to talk to, I know your all thinking what a crumbled relationship. He is so self centred at times and doesn’t see his mistakes or it’s his world and everyone lives in it, but he is at the same time an amazing guy.

its not hormones, I’m sure they play a little part…

I feel like I’ve been here before with my ex and it’s giving me the worst anxiety, I’ve done it all before on my own I don’t want to go through all that again, I love him so much.

Threatens me he will start going on the piss etc saying he doesn’t like communicating with me anymore.

i visited a friend (male) one I’ve known 20 + yrs he knows about and met because his dad has died today as he is not coping well and he lost his shit…

this should be our happiest of times we both wished for, when Infact he was more buzzing about the baby we didn’t keep 2yrs ago 😓😓😓😓

just needed to offload as nobody knows I’m pregnant but him and mumsnet

I'm sorry @SCK2024, that sounds really stressful. I think it's worth nothing that stress alone won't impact your pregnancy. It is tucked away safely in your womb, and stress isn't known to have any physiological impact on a pregnancy in the early stages. It's not ideal for your mental health, but the baby will be doing fine.

I have found that pregnancy and children have always been the biggest stressors in my marriage. When I have opened up to my friends about this they all agreed. We, like you, never even argued before having a child and suddenly, everything was an issue!

I think the best thing you can do is try and keep the communication lines open with your partner. Tell him how you are feeling and sometimes, to keep the peace, there's no harm in taking the high road and agreeing ti disagree to avoid an argument.

A wise friend, who was in a beautiful but complicated marriage that is now divorced once said to me "just stop niggling about the small stuff, the dishes, the dirty clothes not in the washing basket, the toilet seat not back down - it's doesn't matter, that stuff just doesn't matter and it chips away at the marriage equilibrium for no good reason"

I'm not sure if that is even relevant to your situation but I think about it a lot when I feel like we aren't in sync (by that I mean arguing a lot!)

@RooneyRu Thankyou for reaching out.

we do live separately got both our homes on the market it got pushed back from this time last year due to the ceiling falling through/burst pipe.

I really anxious moving in together now, I’m scared we move in and then I’m stuck and I’ve lost my own home and trying to get a way out. I’m really worried.

I haven’t felt loved, no physical touch for a few weeks now.

He’s seen his arse because I didn’t stay the night because it would of been pointless me driving up the motorway for 30mins x3 then back again my end for work… he’s spent his own time seeing his mates whilst I’m at home cooking and cleaning.

Today he purposely has gone to work to avoid seeing me but then is going on his night shift tonight and wants me looking after his kids.

i feel like a mug 😓

I feel like this relationship is going to fail already as the pregnancy progresses because I can’t go through living in fear another failed relationship with a baby.

I literally feel lost and not cared about by him.

im going away 1.5 weeks with my son and parents as we do every year and I honestly can’t wait to just get away from it all.
the scan is the day after I come home.

I’d rather do the pregnancy alone, than worry it would eventually fail if I don’t feel confident or reassured we are okay, we can’t keep coming back to this, it’s unfair.

All this because I didn’t stay at his last night & his diggy comments through the weeks threatening me he will start going on the “piss” with his mates if I carry on and organising going out when I’m away, it’s just a shitty thing to do/say,

my ex was the same, we get along now great. But my OH knows the comments made with my ex and how things were to then do the same thing makes me feel vulnerable x

Hey @SCK2024 just wanted to check in and say hope things are ok your end xxx

Hi lovely, thankyou, how are you?

Things improved but we have now faced another battle.. technically we are fine.. its a situation with his other kids and mum, which has caused quite an impact on us.

with my hormones and the stress of it my GP gave have put me on sertraline.

We still haven’t sorted selling up, his is taking forever to get any interest, I think the baby will be here before we move, which then makes me feel like a single mum all over again 😓

it’s really tough right now.

bump is 14weeks tomorrow, we are going to tell our boys this Friday x

Hi Everyone. Just checking in to see how are you all getting on?

Wanted to let you all know that I am almost 16 weeks pregnant myself now…. Still not quite sure I believe it will work out after many losses but each week that goes by I start to get a little bit more excited 🥰

Hope all your pregnancies are travelling perfectly uneventfully ❤️

Congratulations if I haven’t said already!
I am 31 weeks 💖 we are having a girl.
hormones have calmed down now and in a happier place xx

its gone so fast!

how are you? X

Hi!

Congratulations I’m so happy for you! You too @SCK2024 xxx how is everything going for you both?

I had a little baby girl at the end of November. Not going to lie it’s been so tough but we are emerging now and starting to get into a routine and know each other so things are much better now.