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GentlePinkReader · 05/02/2025 21:13

My partner and I have been together for nearly 8 years, and 2 years into our relationship, we found ourselves pregnant. At the time, we made the difficult decision to terminate the pregnancy due to various reasons, including financial reasons, not being ready to be parents and work-related reasons.

Now, fast-foward 6 years, we are very ready to have a baby. We have bought a lovely family home and we are at a good place in our careers to focus on a family. However, we are unfortunately struggling to conceive. We've been trying to conceive for 13 months and have had no luck. I often wonder if our current struggles are karma for the abortion 6 years prior.

Our GP has referred us to the hospital's infertility department, and we are due to have our first appointment next month to see what our options are. So far, I've had a blood test and ultrasound and all my results came back as normal. Next week my partner is due to submit his semen sample for analysis.

Has anyone else found themselves in a similar position, namely having had an abortion years prior and then struggling to conceive later? I'm worried that we'll never have a baby or that we will, but it'll involve a difficult fertility journey involving IVF.

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PoppyPeaches · 05/02/2025 21:44

Hello! I’m so sorry to read of your struggles, it must be so so hard knowing you’ve been pregnant easily before, and now it isn’t happening.
My situation is different in that I’ve never managed to become pregnant before, but I have been trying a similar time to you with no luck so feel I can relate. My partner submitted his sample last week but we are still waiting on the results, and I’ve had basic bloods which are normal but the GP won’t refer me for further testing until my partners results are back (we’ve been waiting 4m for this appt), and in our area the waiting time for women to be tested is around 6m.
Ive just come on today 3 days late and I am honestly devastated, and spent hours today crying alone in my car. I’m just about to turn 36 and it feels that it’s either never going to happen for us, or we may have to try privately funded IVF which I don’t feel ready for yet, for several reasons. I do know I can’t hack the mental torture of the disappointment each month for much longer, but also don’t want to give up trying as I want this so badly. It’s just so so hard and I don’t think you can fully appreciate it until you’ve been through it. I feel so upset/angry/jealous that it isn’t happening for us, yet getting pregnant seems to come so easily to so many.
I’m so sorry to bombard your post when you’d asked specifically about previous pregnancies but couldn’t scroll past xxx

GentlePinkReader · 05/02/2025 22:22

Hi PoppyPeaches,

Thank you very much for sharing your story. I understand what you're going through.

It's so rubbish to experience intense disappointment and sadness every month for so many months.

I understand the conflicted feeling of not wanting to expose yourself to monthly heartbreak, but at the same time, continuing to expose yourself because it feels like the only way to solve the heartbreak of not getting pregnant.

I really thought that 2025 would be our year to become parents and time is already running out for that to happen.

I'm sending baby magic your way :) xx

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