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12 days POV post chemical pregnancy, anyone want to help eachother stay sane?

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Babyhopes97 · 03/02/2025 05:25

Hi everyone, I know there's so many threads like this but I couldn't find any recent to join so thought I'd make one. Today I am 12 days POV, I suffered a chemical 2 years ago and I know that's good while ago but I'm still obsessing over testing thinking this will happen again. My lines are looking pretty good currently. My chemical happened at the same time I faced severe burn out, later getting diagnosed with adult adhd and it's taken me 2 years to finally get some what back to normal after being literally floored by burn out and bed ridden. I feel the emotional side of the chemical was the last little push for me and the fear has been strong this time. Admittedly I'm in much better health now and I'm holding onto hope that this time it is meant to be, I'm trying to stop testing past first thing in the morning as of today as it's been very draining these past few days. Would anyone like to join me for moral support so we don't feel like we are going mad? I haven't even told my partner yet as I am too worried it won't stick. Iv attached my line progression photos (I know line progression obsessing only feeds anxiety but I can't help it) lol. Iv been waking up daily at 3am which is probs making things worse, must be the hormones. Ghost hour and obsessing over mumsnet is my life atm 😆 negative digital yesterday.

12 days POV post chemical pregnancy, anyone want to help eachother stay sane?
12 days POV post chemical pregnancy, anyone want to help eachother stay sane?
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sel2223 · 03/02/2025 05:46

Is it doing you any good mentally to keep testing OP?

At the very most you should only be testing once every 48 hours to allow for an increase in hcg. Testing daily or worse, several times a day, can take over your life and be detrimental to your mental health.

With a chemical pregnancy as well, many women aren't even aware they've had them and would prefer not to know. It's only through early testing that anyone is even aware of it and you have to ask whether it's of any benefit to you to be aware of it happening.

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Babyhopes97 · 03/02/2025 07:39

sel2223 · 03/02/2025 05:46

Is it doing you any good mentally to keep testing OP?

At the very most you should only be testing once every 48 hours to allow for an increase in hcg. Testing daily or worse, several times a day, can take over your life and be detrimental to your mental health.

With a chemical pregnancy as well, many women aren't even aware they've had them and would prefer not to know. It's only through early testing that anyone is even aware of it and you have to ask whether it's of any benefit to you to be aware of it happening.

Oh absolutely, you are right, as mentioned in the original post I know it's not good to line obsess. My last pregnancy lasted 5 weeks 6 days so I was late, not sure if that's chemical or miscarriage. I know I should of waited until I was late but it's easier said than done, I fixate on things because of my adhd and have had a lot of symptoms, same as last time I become full on insomnia after conception so it's hard to keep myself occupied and distracted during the night. Iv promised myself back away from the tests now but I know lots of women are the same as me and struggle to wait until periods day 🫣

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sel2223 · 03/02/2025 10:12

Babyhopes97 · 03/02/2025 07:39

Oh absolutely, you are right, as mentioned in the original post I know it's not good to line obsess. My last pregnancy lasted 5 weeks 6 days so I was late, not sure if that's chemical or miscarriage. I know I should of waited until I was late but it's easier said than done, I fixate on things because of my adhd and have had a lot of symptoms, same as last time I become full on insomnia after conception so it's hard to keep myself occupied and distracted during the night. Iv promised myself back away from the tests now but I know lots of women are the same as me and struggle to wait until periods day 🫣

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I totally get where you are coming from, it's so much easier said than done not to keep testing constantly and obsess.

I was TTC for 4 years and went through about every stage you could think of. I did wean myself off the testing thing eventually though after so much heartbreak and disappointment month after month and i felt a million times better for it.
Repeat testing doesn't change anything.

When I did eventually fall pregnant, I was 5.5 weeks before I tested and got a strong unmistakable BFP which was amazing.

Good luck

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