2 possible fathers HELP

Random86 · 2025-01-21T14:23:43+00:00

Please no judgement my heads in turmoil. me and my ex fell out and I got drunk to numb the pain to get over it see attached photo I’ve circled the dates. 3rd ONS 11th Ex 18th sore boobs 30th pregnancy test positive (1st test I did) my ovulation period 9th-15th my last period was 26th July 33days cycle, 14 days lutael phase & period lasted 6/7 days. DNA IS A MUST AFTER BABY BORN. who’s likely to be the father to my baby?

paulliee · 21/01/2025 14:31

I'd say your ex

Getuptherenow · 21/01/2025 14:32

No way to know til DNA test

BabyFever246 · 21/01/2025 14:34

Why after baby is born? You can do non-invasive prenatal paternity tests now - literally a blood test on you. Do one in second trimester so the dad knows before baby arrives and can get involved in those early days rather than waiting to find out if actually his before getting attached.

Edit to say if you conceived in August you're almost 6 months pregnant now so do the test ASAP.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 14:36

BabyFever246 · 21/01/2025 14:34

Why after baby is born? You can do non-invasive prenatal paternity tests now - literally a blood test on you. Do one in second trimester so the dad knows before baby arrives and can get involved in those early days rather than waiting to find out if actually his before getting attached.

Edit to say if you conceived in August you're almost 6 months pregnant now so do the test ASAP.

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I enquired about non invasive test it’s nearly £1,000 I have not got that kind of money. Both possible fathers are aware and know the situation. I don’t sleep about and it was a drunken mistake. We are good to do it after baby’s born when it’s much cheaper.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 15:36

paulliee · 21/01/2025 14:31

I'd say your ex

Im hoping so he really wants to be a dad and it’ll break his heart if not. Things like this happen and I really hate myself for it I can’t enjoy my pregnancy for this reason but I can’t afford dna early

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AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 15:38

how did you track your ovulation? is it accurate? if so i dont see how the ONS can be the father if yoy slept with him on the 3rd and you ovulated on the 14th.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 15:49

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 15:38

how did you track your ovulation? is it accurate? if so i dont see how the ONS can be the father if yoy slept with him on the 3rd and you ovulated on the 14th.

I use a period tracker and have done for last 2 years. I never tracked ovulation as the pregnancy was unexpected. It shows on my app when I would have been ovulating and was around 9-15th August.

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MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 17:49

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

how do you suppose OP asks her ONS for £333 for a paternity test?

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 17:55

Random86 · 21/01/2025 15:49

I use a period tracker and have done for last 2 years. I never tracked ovulation as the pregnancy was unexpected. It shows on my app when I would have been ovulating and was around 9-15th August.

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I think its unlikely to be the ONS, although I do know someone who ovulated and got pregnant right after her period, but usually if its a 33-35 day cycle then day 19-22 is when ovulation would occur - as per your app.

sel2223 · 21/01/2025 17:56

Have you posted multiple times about this OP? I'm sure I've replied at least twice on other threads

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:51

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

I don’t have that kind of money spare unfortunately

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:53

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 17:26

When was your last period before the 3rd?

It's almost impossible to say currently - if you didn't do OPKS. I'm guessing your period was due or late on the 30th and as such your ex is likely the father. But it could be you had been expecting it a week before testing? In which case I'd expect it to be the ONS.

£1k seems entirely worth spending for this. If you split the cost 3 ways with all affected parties it's £333. I think that's money well spent honestly. The father will likely want to (if not attend the birth) meet his child quickly after it is born - and not knowing by then will cloud the birth for you I think. The science is there and it's accessible, I would make use of it.

My period before was 25th June til 30th.

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Friedshed · 21/01/2025 18:55

Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:51

I don’t have that kind of money spare unfortunately

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Just do two bank switches and you're sorted.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 18:56

AmethystRuby · 21/01/2025 17:55

I think its unlikely to be the ONS, although I do know someone who ovulated and got pregnant right after her period, but usually if its a 33-35 day cycle then day 19-22 is when ovulation would occur - as per your app.

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My period was 25th June - 30th. And was ovulating around 7th July - 13th then my last period on 26th July.

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MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 20:46

If your period was from the 25th I'd say it's more likely to be your ex. But can't be certain until you do the DNA. Most likely your ex though I expect.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:01

MocktailMe · 21/01/2025 20:46

If your period was from the 25th I'd say it's more likely to be your ex. But can't be certain until you do the DNA. Most likely your ex though I expect.

i had 32 cycle in may
36 day in June
and 31 day cycle in July then 33 day cycle in August.

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Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:20

Much more likely to be your ex.

Was the sex equally protected / unprotected with both?

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:21

Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:20

Much more likely to be your ex.

Was the sex equally protected / unprotected with both?

Both was unprotected but ons didn’t ejaculate inside me. Possible precum.

i have been tested I have no sti’s. It was a very drunken mistake that I’m ashamed to admit.

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Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:29

Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:21

Both was unprotected but ons didn’t ejaculate inside me. Possible precum.

i have been tested I have no sti’s. It was a very drunken mistake that I’m ashamed to admit.

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Even more likely that it is your ex then.

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Random86 · 21/01/2025 21:51

Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:29

Even more likely that it is your ex then.

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I believe so too but I can’t stop thinking about it. I can’t enjoy my pregnancy for thinking about it 😭 I know it’s my own doing but it’s still awful.

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 07:56

Mumofteenandtween · 21/01/2025 21:29

Even more likely that it is your ex then.

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The ons said he didn’t cum inside me but he he doesn’t remember. Normally you feel wet after down there and I remember going to to toilet and was nothing not wet or anything so I’m hoping he’s right. Just can’t help to think. I really want it to be my exes but both said they will step up if it’s their child.

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Kels21 · 22/01/2025 08:29

I’d say your ex is the dad. The 3rd is to far out to when you roughly ovulated

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 22/01/2025 08:32

Things like this ruin people's lives. No way to know until baby is here. Can go off dates as much as you like. Hope everyone gets the answers they hope for.

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Random86 · 22/01/2025 08:40

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 22/01/2025 08:32

Things like this ruin people's lives. No way to know until baby is here. Can go off dates as much as you like. Hope everyone gets the answers they hope for.

Maybe if they wasn’t told yes but no they’ve known from the off I’m a honest person who made one mistake.

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