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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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11dpo

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CRAmum · 21/01/2025 09:43

I miscarried last year at the end of October. It wasn't straightforward as the D&C I had didn't remove all the tissue and I needed a few scans and blood tests afterwards to finally confirm the remaining tissue left after my period at the end of November. I finally got the all clear at beginning December.

It was quite a big thing for us to try again as my first DC was born premature and was poorly in NICU. That pregnancy was complicated and I had many stays in hospital during it.

We found the whole miscarriage devastating. My DH agreed to trying again but only until Easter this year due to our ages. I'm 11dpo and a cheap hcg strip shows a faint line. I feel sick and anxious. I have been poorly with pneumonia all December and I'm worried I'll miscarry again as I'm convinced my egg quality must have been poor as I've been so ill. Just a ramble, not sure the whole point of post.

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Kels21 · 21/01/2025 11:12

Well I’d say that’s definitely positive. My advice after my miscarriage in October was to call the epu unit when I get a positive test and they will get me in for early scans and book me with a midwife….could be something you could do? I’m in my tww now not sure when I ovulated as I wasn’t checking then I did check when I normally would ovulate because I just can’t help myself 😂 and it was negative so I either ovulated early or didn’t at all but we only dtd twice so not holding out much hope tbh but we will see I’m due on on Monday! Congratulations though, try to stay relaxed i know that’s easier said than done 🤍 how old are you if you don’t mind me asking? X

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CRAmum · 21/01/2025 13:35

@Kels21 thank you for responding.

I find with those opk stick that you have to be really on the ball with peeing on them. From day 8 onwards I test twice a day and when I think the LHS surge is going to happen, 3-4 times so I can work out when I've peaked! Wishing you much baby dust :)

I'm 38 and DH is 41, he doesn't want to be much older than he is now if we're to have a 2nd DC. He's worried about not being able to have a kick about with DC or grandchildren if he's a few years older which I completely understand. I was poorly for weeks with our 1st DC so I don't want to be much older either. I was also told it's unlikely I would carry to full term.

Our EPU will refuse to see you unless you've had a referral from the GP. I had spotting from 5 weeks and it wasn't until a another sympathetic GP picked up on it when I called about something else at 7 weeks and referred me immediately. It was at the 7 weeks scan they said the pregnancy potentially wasn't viable and the following week there was no heartbeat

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Kels21 · 21/01/2025 14:47

Oh bless you I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that. Lots aren’t starting these days till in their 40s but I completely understand what you mean, I’m 37 this year and I’m aware I’m older than others and makes me wonder if I’m struggling to fall pregnant because of that. I’m just going to keep trying all the fads and things they say can get you pregnant and keep at it lol! Wishing you so much love and luck please keep us updated 🤍 xx

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CRAmum · 21/01/2025 16:00

@Kels21 actually the consultant I saw for my final scan scoffed when I asked if I was too old! She said absolutely not, especially as I've had regular periods and in relatively good health.

As for TTC, how long have you been trying? We tried for 9 cycles before falling pregnant in September then it ended in miscarriage. This time round we've tried for 2 cycles. I had some fertility testing done at my GP which all came back normal. We used fertility lube and diet wise I found some research papers on the type of diet to aid fertility and loosely followed that. Other than that, I've been generally sensible.

Thank you for being kind and I respect hope it works out well for you x

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Kels21 · 21/01/2025 22:28

CRAmum · 21/01/2025 16:00

@Kels21 actually the consultant I saw for my final scan scoffed when I asked if I was too old! She said absolutely not, especially as I've had regular periods and in relatively good health.

As for TTC, how long have you been trying? We tried for 9 cycles before falling pregnant in September then it ended in miscarriage. This time round we've tried for 2 cycles. I had some fertility testing done at my GP which all came back normal. We used fertility lube and diet wise I found some research papers on the type of diet to aid fertility and loosely followed that. Other than that, I've been generally sensible.

Thank you for being kind and I respect hope it works out well for you x

Oh really? That’s good then 🥰 maybe we need to relax ha! It’s hard though. We were trying for 10 cycles got pregnant on the 10th that ended in miscarriage 🤍 then this is our 3rd cycle trying since, I miscarried in October. 31st. Oh I drank mucus cough medicine, the conceive lube. Vitamins the lot the cycle I fell pregnant 😂 tempted to do it again 😂 x

Kels21 · 21/01/2025 22:29

CRAmum · 21/01/2025 16:00

@Kels21 actually the consultant I saw for my final scan scoffed when I asked if I was too old! She said absolutely not, especially as I've had regular periods and in relatively good health.

As for TTC, how long have you been trying? We tried for 9 cycles before falling pregnant in September then it ended in miscarriage. This time round we've tried for 2 cycles. I had some fertility testing done at my GP which all came back normal. We used fertility lube and diet wise I found some research papers on the type of diet to aid fertility and loosely followed that. Other than that, I've been generally sensible.

Thank you for being kind and I respect hope it works out well for you x

I didn’t drink the lube btw 😂 I just read it and thought oh hang on 😂

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