Date confusion!

[User730148]

Hi! I’m so confused by dates and finding it all so consuming trying to work them out. I spend all day every day googling😫

I came off the pill a few months ago, I had my first period and the cycle was 33 days.

I then had a period on 28th September, had sex on 14th October and fell pregnant - meaning another 33 day cycle.

Unfortunately I had bleeding and had a complete miscarriage on November 18th - I had a scan - I was clear and nothing remained.

My period returned on 12th December this month, and I was told you should work out ovulation by counting the miscarriage as a period date - but between the last day of the miscarriage and first day of my last period it was only 23 days - usually my cycles are 33.

I’ve been doing ovulation tests so I can try to conceive again and I haven’t reached a positive one yet - I’m day 17 of my cycle now.

Do you think I won’t ovulate this month? Or shall I base my ovulation on my usual 33 days? Or is it the 23 days? If it’s the 23 days then I definitely haven’t ovulated as I’ve been testing every day.

So confusing I’m really hoping someone can advise🥹

Sorry for your loss, you would count from the first day of the miscarriage like you would the first day of your period. Though having any kind of loss can through your hormones off abit and it's not uncommon to have a few cycles of varying length before they even out again

So sorry for loss. It can take some time for your cycle to regulate after a loss. So it's not unusual to ovulate at a strange time or even maybe not ovulate. If you're actively TTC it might be no harm to just take the regular sex approach rather than stressing on catching your ovulation peak. That might not appeal to you, but I just find the stress of tracking when already dealing with a loss is just that bit too much stress. Good luck OP x