Benefits off getting pregnant in early 40’s?

[Ellioves]

Hi I have 2 children would like to conceive my 3rd final baby I’m 41.im thinking 41 is too old is it? Any positive stories?

I’m 41 and ttc #2
My eldest is 18 and I’m so much more chilled out now than when I was younger. Much more financially stable.
im really hoping it happens for us! Good Luck on your journey

Had my 2nd at 42.

Didn't really think about the downsides as I was certain I wanted to give DC1 a sibling. Got pregnant quicker than I expected.

Birth was quick and we bonded so quickly after she was born.

I am at a point in my career where I am not worried about being judged about taking family time- I've built trust, and get the job done (even if I have to take a day off for DC illness).

My Mam is retired, which may be less common for younger Mams, so I have emergency help now that I've moved back to my home town.

Final benefit is not being as easily triggered!

PS i did lots to work on my fertility, happy to DM if interested? Dont want to hijack the thread when there's other threads (reprodctive immunology etc)

I've just turned 42 and currently 27 weeks with DD2 - conceived naturally, scans all ok, NIPT low risk.
DD1 is 4.5 years old.

I am 41 too. Had my first at 27, second at 39 and, fingers crossed, will have my third at 42. I got a BFP today after trying since April and having one chemical two months ago. Just praying this one sticks!
I have definitely enjoyed motherhood in my 40s more than the younger days. It was hard juggling the pressures to have a more exciting social life and now I’m quite happy on the couch with a packet of Jaffa cakes!
also more secure now with career, relationship and finances so all forms a better base to build on.
I am worried about how exhausted I’ll be this time round, especially as I’ve not even lost my baby weight yet and I’m feeling super fat! Hoping I can do a health kick during this pregnancy.

I had my only DS at 43 so I can’t comment on how it was compared with being a younger parent however I can compare to other parents I know.

The biggest negative is that we have virtually no family support because GP were either deceased or very elderly before our DS was born. We haven’t had a single hour of childcare assistance and certainly couldn’t call on them in an emergency. We have to be 100% self sufficient.

The big plus is financial. We paid our mortgage off before DS was born and have flexible high paying careers so can use this to counteract the lack of family support. We’ve had to pay around 50k nursery fees that most others we know never did. That would have been tough earlier on in our careers but less so now. The flexibility of senior roles is also a big plus as we can WFH and sort out nursery and school drop offs and pick up between DH and I as there’s nobody else we could ask to do this.

The final big positive is that we’ll be in a position to retire by the time DS is about half way through school which will make everything much easier logistically.

I’ve seen lots of research that suggests women who have children over 40 tend to live longer.

I’d be really grateful if you could send me some info 😊

I conceived my second baby at 43 and gave birth at 44. Took me a year to conceive though, that was with tracking ovulation daily with clear blue. Had a normal, healthy pregnancy and birth, didn't need the NIPT as my 12 week scan and all the tests came back clear.

I have pcos so had lots of miscarriages and then went on to adopt a baby at 30. Gorgeous baby. Then in my late 30s met my dh and became pregnant at 40. Went full term with no issues. Pregnancy and birth absolutely amazing and baby perfect. Then at 45 we were pregnant again and once more sailed through pregnancy and delivery. Fingers crossed for you.

I’m 6 weeks pregnant and 41. I’ve been pregnant three times all conceived naturally and within a month. The reason I mc my 2 previous pregnancies has nothing to do with age and now they know I’ve got meds to help 🙏 with this pregnancy.

I’m established in a very good career with financial freedom and flexibility as I decide as I have a level of seniority. I’m not concerned about my job security being pregnant.
My husband is 49 and earns a very good income so we’re financially stable and have a very happy, loving relationship.
we have a lovely house with no worries about money or paying off the mortgage
We’ve also travelled a lot and have lots of experiences before we’ve started a family so we don’t feel we’re missing out.
We have money for a really good lifestyle.
are older mums better educated and therefore healthier in their lifestyle choices? That’s just a query.

I found as I got older I give less of a shit about what people think and I don’t take any shit.
I think as an older woman you really have thought about having a kid and the pros and cons which makes you a good mum.
We never wanted kids until I fell pregnant without trying and then it all changed. Unfortunately I had a mc but even now with my third pregnancy our whole life and relationship isn’t dependent on having a baby. Obviously it would be amazing but not the be all and end all

There's a thread like this every day! If YOU think it's too old, what are your reasons and why are you considering it?

It's not too old to have a baby unless you've gone through early menopause. Do you want to be pregnant with 2 small kids to run after? How will you get sleep with 3 kids? If you're fine then who cares what others think.

I had my first and only at 45 and 2 months.

Conceived naturally. Easy pregnancy, no nausea, worked until 36weeks. Slightly slow labour, 8lb healthy boy. He's a happy 6' teen now. I was lucky.

By then my mortgage had shrunk. I was comfortable in my career and I already had 24 years paid into a pension. I think I was more resourceful and able to cope with lack of sleep and fluctuating hormones. I was less easily bullied by the health visitor.

I was careful to maintain my fitness though. That's important.

I had my 3rd DC at 42 (BFP on my birthday). He is 12 now and I'm still having periods in my mid 50s, DM went through the menopause at 55 and I'm obviously going to have a late-ish menopause as well. Apparently late pregnancy is linked to living to an old age.