Struggling ttc after miscarriage

[BeKindCyanOrca]

Hi all,

Wondering if anyone is in the same boat or has been with a successful outcome.

I had a miscarriage earlier this year. I’ve had 9 cycles since with no luck.

My blood tests have come back fine and show I am ovulating. We’re waiting for my partners soerm analysis results, and should get them in a week.

I’m not sure what to expect if there is or isn’t and issue with him - and what our next steps
would be.

It’s getting harder each month to stay positive and hopeful, it’s all I can think about :(

Just looking for a helpful shoulder I think :( xx

Hi OP! I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage and struggling to conceive now.

i had a miscarriage with my second and it took almost exactly 12 cycles after that to get pregnant again. Every month, I’d track my cycle and we would DtD and nothing. I’d obsess over it - testing was all I could think about! But at 12 months, I was convinced we had no chance of getting pregnant again and so started planning life - holidays etc. I know it sounds silly but as soon as we stopped trying - and I stopped thinking about it - it happened.

im not saying that ‘stopping worrying’ is easy or that that will work for you… but just trying to give you some comfort that we were in the same boat at one point xxx

Hii,

I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage :(

Just hearing your success story after 12 months has made me feel better, thank you.

The TTC journey is such an odd one, and it feels more and more isolating as the months goes by - so I really do appreciate you reaching out.

I think the pain/weight of the miscarriage is quite heavy, especially when you go past your due date without that positive pregnancy test.

You are right though. I think it’ll do me good to take a bit of a step back and get some head space, especially as it’s Christmas.

It’s quite scary how quickly tracking consumes you, I am totally obsessed with BBT, ovulation tests, pregnancy tests. It can’t be doing me any good.

Thank you xxx

Sending you a hug OP.

i know what you mean about the date being a thing. I think about it every year too but it’s especially hard when there is no other baby yet.

Definitely take a step back, for your own sanity. Still track ovulation, sure, but try to get in a different headspace… try to force yourself to think beyond TTC. I’m convinced with my pregnancy, it was because I had started to relax that it all happened. I know this is so much easier said than done.

I will keep you in my prayers and would love it if/when you come back to this thread to post some good news…. But until that point, try not to overthink it.
Xxx