It's never going to happen.

[Downtherabbithole19]

I guess this is just a bit of a pity post.

Had a miscarriage last April. It's just not going to happen, we have been trying since then and still nothing, before that miscarriage we had a chemical a year before that. I'm just starting to think maybe there is an issue.

At what point do you just give up and say maybe this isn't meant to be and accept it's not going to happen? Feeling extremely low today.

It’s ok to feel low, allow yourself to be sad / angry today. Put on a sad movie and cry your eyes out and I bet you will feel a bit better tomorrow.

Have you been to your GP and started any testing? Is it a route you would consider? Are your periods regular? There can be issues which are easier fixes than others. One step at a time.

With reoccurring miscarriage they can give you progesterone etc for ovulation issues metformin. Not everyone jumps to IVF

I’ve been feeling the same it’s just such a rollercoaster we’ve been trying for 13 cycles and haven’t conceived so I’m getting things looked into by the GP as I think medical support is what I need so it’s not just guesswork.

It really is so hard when you feel so hopeless but think about how you can be kind to yourself and process ❤️ sending solidarity!!!!

TTC is so painful, isn’t it?! I’m so sorry about your miscarriages and the emotional toll waiting every month has. Have you spoken to you and your partner spoken to a GP? As others have mentioned, medical support isn’t just jumping straight to IVF and there might be easier solutions.

We started trying for baby 3 in April (we conceived our first two quickly, although we only have one living child due to stillbirth), had a chemical in May, and nothing since then. On cycle 9 of trying, currently in the TWW, and it just feels like it’s not meant to be. It’s so hard to have envisioned this family in my mind and not having it play out.

Please be gentle with yourself. Maybe find something restorative to do for yourself in the evening -- reading a good book, meditation, a warm bath, etc.

I don't think we will go down the fertility route, we both have children but not together, so my partner is far more laid back about it.

Regular periods, seems to ovulate as in get positive OPK and symptoms. This would be my 3rd and just feel a bit like our last chance, as my children are getting older and would already be a large age gap. I think it's also coming up to the due date and that's just hit me really hard.

Thank you for all your kind words x