Please tell me how hopeful would you be in achieving pregnancy if you were me

[lostittoday]

Hi
I have posted on here a few times before.
But basically I am ttc my 2nd dc and I am feeling so negative about it.
I have been ttc for almost 9 months with no success.
I have thyroid problems, and I have also been suffering from irregular periods which my gp says is caused by my thyroid being undercative.
I have no idea where I am with my cycle, and whether I am having normal cycles, and if I am even ovulating etc.
I am also 37 years of age and early menopause is in the family.
I have had several hormone tests and my gp tells me they are all okay, but never seems to have my results in front of her, and if she does she seems reluctant to go through them with me instead expecting me to take her word that they are okay.
A test I had done back in Novemember after I had experienced a 3 month absence in my cycle did reveal my fsh was high it was also during this test that my underactive thyroid was discovered.
However another test done 6 weeks later showed fsh as been just 7.
I have remained confused about why it was high and then normal ever since.
I have had more hormone test done since where my fsh was tested again but my gp did not have my results in front of her she simply said they were okay so she passed them over.
I have had to push her for a referral to a gyno based on my concerns at how long I have been ttc, coupled with my age, early menopause in family, and thyroid problems.
I am so worried I will not have any more dc's as I feel time is running out.
How hopeful would you be if you were me am I being paranoid about all of this.
I am due to see the gyno on the 16th of may and I am worried about being fobbed off.

Have you read a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It might help you.

I don,t know what to think honestly.
I realise that alot of people do all of the temping, and charting, on here but I have also heard alot of these methods can be inaccurate and of no use on a irregular cycle.
I do realise alot of poeple try for a long long time and I know the waiting must be just as bad.
What worries me is my age and a early menopause.
My mom and two sisters had their menopause between the ages of 38 and 40.
I suppose I have concerns that that is what is causing my irregular cycle.
My gp just seems so vague on all of this.
I didn,t have thyroid problems when I concieved my 1st dc that was 8 years ago.

I don't think the gynae will fob you off- you'll probably get much better answers from him/her than from GP as this is their specialism. My GP was far from helpful but gynae was brilliant. Tell the gynae everything you've said in you post, including your fears that you won't have another DC. Best of luck for 16/5

book taking charge of your fertility it is fantastic, i would try takig your temperature i am currently doing my first temp chart and finding it really good as it shows you what is going on in your cycle

The good news is that you're seeing the gynae soon. The chances of being fobbed off will be much less than with the GP (who knows bugger all about infertility). Can your DH/DP go to the appointment with you? Or someone else (a good friend, your Mum)? I would sit down now with your DP/DH and have a really good think about the questions that you want to ask, and the things that you're confused about. You can then take that list to the gynae and go through everything one by one and write down the answers to look over later. The trouble with consultant appointments is that they can be so emotional that you get into a bit of a state, forget half of what they said and then realise as you set foot out of the door that you missed out something really important. Or at least, you do if you're me.

I certainly wouldn't write yourself off. Good luck.

Hi.
I am trying to remember what was said about fsh levels when I was having some blood tests.
All your tests were done on day 3 weren't they? I ask because GPs don't necessarily know that they have to be done at that time, (mine didn't and I have read of many others on mumsnet). If not then that could be a factor in the variability.
I there were all done on day 3 then I do remember it being said about me that my fsh level was only as good as the highest value recorded unfortunately. However, I also remembering it being said that they don't directly correspond with a woman's fertility. That is, some women with a higher fsh level seemed to have their fertility unaffected whereas others with a level that was only slighty elevated were much more affected. I think it may be a bit of a grey area where medical science are still theorising.

I understand the pain of wanting another baby and I really hope you are pregnant before you get your gyno appointment so all this is academic.