Getting Pregnant After Ectopic Pregnancy

[Annie24x]

Hi all,

This is my first time posting, I just need some advice or positive stories as feeling very emotionally drained.

Myself and my partner started trying for a baby in March this year, we were over the moon to find out we were pregnant but unfortunately I suffered from an ectopic pregnancy and ended up having emergency surgery and my right fallopian tube removed at the start of August.

Since then I followed the advice we waited 2 full cycles before trying again, my periods went straight back to normal have in a good cycle each month (like clockwork).

This is my second cycle since trying and am 10dpo I’m due on on Saturday and have been testing for the last few days all negative. I’m really loosing hope for this cycle and not sure how to go through each cycle without this constant obsession with tracking and doubt that it’s just not going to happen for me now :(

I think I’m just in need of some positive stories from people after ectopic because all I have been reading are so negative and scary!

Thank you in advance <3

Hi @Annie24x , Firstly I'm so sorry for your loss and the trauma you've been through.
Your story is incredibly familiar, I had an ectopic pregnancy in October 2021, it ruptured, emergency surgery and lost my right tube.
Everyone is so different but I'll share my story and I hope it provides a potentially positive example for you.
I waited a couple of months before trying to conceive again, my cycles were all over the place and in hindsight so was my mental state.
I conceived again in May 2022 and my daughter was born healthy and happy in February 2023.
I'm back on the conception threads because my husband and I are now trying for number 2.

I found the stress and anxiety of trying to conceive very hard on my mental health, especially as tracking is very important after an ectopic because you need to get in for an early scan. I don't have much advice here apart from I hope it happens quickly for you and the baby is in the right place. I found my local hospital very supportive in getting in for an early scan at 5 weeks (I had ruptured at 6.5 so I couldn't wait).
I have a similar feeling of fear trying for a second and wish I could just not need to track everything, so sending a hand hold and a hug because it's not easy.
I would also say that it may feel like an age but in the grand scheme of things it's only been a couple of months since you've had major surgery so do try to be kind to yourself.

When you do conceive I would recommend the mental health midwife service, I referred myself when I was pregnant with my daughter and they were incredibly supportive during my pregnancy.

Happy to answer any questions. Sending you strength at this really tough time. xx

Hi @Chantal90, thank you so much for your message, great comfort and advice, I appreciate it more than you know.
I hear and read so many things online which are either negative or I’m not able to relate etc. I really do appreciate you taking the time in sharing this and wishing you all the best for trying for number 2.
I really do need to understand and tell myself it is so soon after and it’s a major surgery, it’s just very overwhelming when it feels like that’s all I want but I will be kinder to myself.
Thank you again xxx

Hi @Annie24x , It's absolutely fine! I also searched for positive stories after my ectopic and struggled to find any so I try to respond when someone posts asking.
Good luck for this cycle, 10DPO is still early so there's still time and if it's not this time then it wasn't meant to be this cycle but doesn't mean it won't happen!
I've come across other positive pregnancy post-ectopic stories and you might find the ectopic pregnancy trust forum a good place to post too.
It's a massive surgery, and also a huge emotional trauma for you and your husband.
I try to think about how I would respond to a friend going though something similar and I'm alot nicer than I am when I'm beating myself up.
Hopefully you'll get some more positive responses - but successful pregnancy post ruptured-ectopic definitely happens, my mad little 21 month old is proof :)
xx