Help me NOT test early this month!!

[Yellowdaff25]

I’m on cycle 13 ttc #2. My first was a happy accident and caused zero symptoms. So much so that he flew completely under the radar and I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I was 13 weeks!! So all this early testing and symptom spotting is new to me I’m very much a POAS addict.

I had some very faint lines on tests last month and I suspect a possible very very early chemical as I have never had lines on these tests before but anyway, that is besides the point..

The early testing and crushing disappointment is becoming all consuming and something I keep very secret from my partner but the number of cheapies I have gathered and secretly disposed of over the last few months is quite crazy and my behaviour is that of a mad woman😅 We are obviously trying but he is much more laid back than me and I have quite an addictive personality and it becomes all I can think about.

Those of you that don’t test early and have the willpower now too. How do you do it??

I googled the most likely day for implantation and that helped me rule out anything pre 10dpo as a waste of a test.

"However, the science shows us that implantation most commonly occurs on days 8, 9, and 10 past ovulation. Since it takes a few days for hCG to show up in your urine, the earliest you could get a positive pregnancy test if your embryo implanted on day 8 past ovulation would be day 10."

Then it gets harder. I have a slightly shorter luteal phase so would test 12dpo and then I would know if I was coming on that night or the next day. I didn't have long to feel disappointed as my period would arrive and I could try again.

But when I conceived, the line was definitive.

If you have a standard luteal phase of 14 days it must be harder to wait post 12dpo as the chances are you will know by then.

So be kind to yourself. Try to avoid testing before 10dpo but if you get past that it's understandable that you want to know. We're only human!

Thanks for taking the time to reply! My brain tells me that there is no point testing before 9dpo at the earliest but I have been known to pee on a stick at 4dpo😳 Literally money down the drain😅. It doesn’t help when mumsnet is full of 8dpo squinters which makes it seem the norm when of course I l know it isn’t!

Hey OP, i'm barley holding myself, i only tested once this cycle. And since i caught a CP last month, i dont wanna ti through the horrible experience again, and since it's still fresh in my brain, it s the only thing keeping me from testing. But im dying to know! I dont knw how much longer i can hold myself. Think the key is to have no test at home. But unfortunately i still have some from last cycle!
I totally get how you feel and if you find a cure to the obsession please tell me hahah

Nice to know I’m not alone Panda! If I find the cure I’ll be sure to let you know😂x

@Yellowdaff25 you said you might've had a chemical last month, how did this cycle unfold? Did u ovulate in the same time.
My cycle has been all over the place, i feel like i ovulated very late which makes the wait longer! (Didnt start testing early this cycle so i might have missed the rise of LH)!

My answer is just don’t have the tests in the house. I found if I bought a big pack I’d end up using them daftly. I tell myself I will buy a test on day after af due, if I need one, so I rarely test now. About to give up ttc I think though.

I haven’t ovulated yet this cycle, I usually ovulate CD 17 and am currently CD13. I track with temps and OPKS x

Sorry to hear you’re feeling like giving up ttc. It is mentally exhausting at times x

Hey OP

My first was concieved on cycle 1 and now on cycle 16 TTC number 2 so similar sort of situation. I think once I passed the year mark it sort of 'helped' in a way as now we've passed the 'normal' conception period I sort of just expect AF and I don't bother testing. I've learnt so much about my body and cycle, that symptoms such as cramping, bloating, nausea etc are all such normal symptoms for me around 6-11dpo that I know any symptoms are just part of a normal response to hormones rather than pregnancy. I agree with previous posters to just not have the tests in the house.

Just to add that I did to 3 tests this most recent cycle as AF was 5 days late which has NEVER happend to me. Obvs all negative and I think it was due to have a virus... The female body loves to have a laugh!

Hey OP, TTC number 1 here and cycle 5. I have never been a hugely
Early tester but last
Month I tested on the day of my due period (my luteal phase is 11/12 days) - was positive and then started bleeding in the evening, so Chemical pregnancy. I think I would rather have tested 2 weeks post ovulation (this is what I will do from now on) to avoid the heat take of catching the CP (and also avoid a hole in your wallet as you said !)
It definitely doesn't help when you see people testing so early and you want to be the next one to have a positive and I totally get that. You can rule out week one or the first 10 days by telling yourself that hcg isn't in your body until the egg implanted as well. So any test before implantation and sometimes on the day of implantation would be negative. I hope it helps ! 🫶🏽