Bad idea to start trying again immediately?

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I'm currently going through my 3rd loss and I'm really impatient to start again straight away but I'm worried it might not be the best idea.

I had my first loss a year ago, I was only 5 weeks so we got straight to it and I was pregnant again without a period between.
Everything looked great at my 8 week scan but they noted I had a subchorionic hematoma.
We managed to get to 12 weeks until the bleeding began and as it was over new years weekend I had to miscarry at home, it was a missedmiscarriage.
When we went to the epu we took everything that I had passed. After they looked at it they started asking about previous pregnancies, especially any VERY recent ones. I was too upset at the time to think about it but I think they might have found retained tissue.

It took a long time to feel ready to try again and then just as long to get pregnant again and I'm now going through my 3rd loss.

We've been referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic but I know we might have a long wait and I really want to keep trying.

Would it be a mistake to start again immediately? In the back of my head I'm worried of an increased risk of it happening again instead of just waiting an extra month. Does anyone know if the risk really is higher?

Hello OP.
Very sorry tobhear of your losses.
It's very difficult in the circumstances to know what best to do.
You have the physical side and the mental side of things and dealing with both.
You have to go with how you best feel yourself (unless you have been specifically advised by medics not to try).
For what it's worth, I had a stillborn at 24 weeks in Nov 2021, and was pregnant again in January 2022.
I send hugs and sorry for not being much help x

I have a friend who was in your position, she waited for her appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic and after investigations there they found there were actually issues that were causing the miscarriages and she wouldn’t have been able to have a healthy pregnancy without the treatment & ongoing medication they provided. I think she waited 5 months ish for her appointment and then investigations etc but she does say she is really glad she stopped trying in the meantime because once she got her results she knew even if she’d kept trying she would only have had more miscarriages which would have been extremely difficult both physically and mentally for her. Now with treatment she has a beautiful baby boy!

I also have another friend in the same situation who is waiting until she has been seen by recurrent miscarriage clinic before trying again, she knows the other friend and doesn’t want to put herself through potentially more miscarriages before she has investigations done.

It’s a personal decision but if it as me I would wait until I’d been seen x

Hey lovely sorry for what you have been through, as i was ready i figured out we miscarried alsmost at the same time last year, i didn't start right away and i do regret it, i've seen so many ppl getting pregnant right away. The only advice i can give you is listen to you body and if you feel ready then go for it (ofc if u have the go of your doctors and u dont have an issue). Good luck with ur journey. As for me still trying, got a CP last cycle so hopefully next fe cycle would bring joy to me. And most of all you are not alone in this ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹