BFP after a chemical

OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar · 2024-11-13T14:49:25+00:00

I just wanted to reach out and hear any positive stories people might have? I have just received a BFP, 5 cycles after a chemical pregnancy, and the anxiety is real! Wondering if anyone has any stories of a successful pregnancy after a chemical/miscarriage, and how you navigated things? I’m trying to not get ahead of myself, stay calm and remember that every pregnancy is different, but really unsure how to navigate things - ecspecially over this next week which is when I lost the pregnancy last time. thanks so much 🩵

log51 · 13/11/2024 19:52

Congratulations. I had my BFP the month after my chemical and he is now a healthy 13 month old! It was really anxiety inducing to be honest the first week or so after the BFP second time around. The only advice really is to keep busy, treat yourself and get as much sleep as poss - touch wood in a couple of weeks (by week 6 for me) are going to feel more tired than you ever have in your life! (Honestly that fatigue was way worse for me than newborn stage!)

Barbie46 · 13/11/2024 20:47

I got my BFP the first cycle after my chemical. Honestly the anxiety was extreme until around 23 weeks. I think reaching viability was the turning point and I'm now 28 weeks.
The anxiety was so bad that I was having full on panic attacks at/after every appointment. My midwife referred me to the doctor as an urgent case to discuss going on medication for the anxiety. I chose not to but it was rough.
I booked several private scans to keep an eye on things and I started to feel much better once I could feel baby move.

It's a very tough time after going through a miscarriage but take one day at a time and go to the midwife every day if you need to for a reassurance check and to hear the heart beat.

MummyV2021 · 13/11/2024 21:22

Firstly, congratulations!! I had an early MC and a chemical in quick succession before getting my BFP 2 months later (skipped a month of trying for my own sanity). Like someone has already said, the anxiety was real and I don't think I fully calmed down until I could feel the baby move and get some physical reassurance he was in there and active! He's now almost 3! I had early scans which would reassure me for 24 hours and then I'd go back to worrying until the next scan. It's really hard as any loss no matter how early can really affect you so just be kind to yourself and find the things that work to help you in this really exciting, confusing and uncertain time. You can drive yourself insane, but I found being open with my partner and my friends and family about my anxiety really helped. They couldn't fully understand but just having people I could offload to really helped. And using forums like this - a group of us actually set up a Facebook page where we would all share our additional testing (those magical 3+ weeks on a digital), early scans and each milestone thereafter. I found it really helped having an outlet to share anxiety and successes! Take care of yourself and try and relax as much as you can 😘

Objectiontime · 13/11/2024 22:34

@OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar Huge congratulations on your new pregnancy. For me things were a little different. I had an MMC followed by a Chemical 5 months later, unfortunately followed by another Chemical 4 months after that. I am now awaiting the results of some private testing. I say this not to put a downer on things. You can see the encouragement and successes above but I wanted to offer some solidarity with your worry. You are so right in that every pregnancy is different but you have absolutely no reason to think that this time wont be successful. You owe it to yourself to try and think positively. At the end of the day, what will be will be and no matter how much or how little stress we out on ourselves it wint change the result so take one day at a time, try to enjoy your pregnancy and I wish you a very happy, healthy pregnancy because those if us in these boards all want that for each other and ourselves x

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OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar · 14/11/2024 08:25

log51 · 13/11/2024 19:52

Congratulations. I had my BFP the month after my chemical and he is now a healthy 13 month old! It was really anxiety inducing to be honest the first week or so after the BFP second time around. The only advice really is to keep busy, treat yourself and get as much sleep as poss - touch wood in a couple of weeks (by week 6 for me) are going to feel more tired than you ever have in your life! (Honestly that fatigue was way worse for me than newborn stage!)

Thank you @log51 , I’m trying my hardest to keep busy and not let any magical thinking get away from me whilst I’m going through this period! I’m soo pleased to hear you were successful second time, gives me such hope 🩵

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OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar · 14/11/2024 08:28

Barbie46 · 13/11/2024 20:47

I got my BFP the first cycle after my chemical. Honestly the anxiety was extreme until around 23 weeks. I think reaching viability was the turning point and I'm now 28 weeks.
The anxiety was so bad that I was having full on panic attacks at/after every appointment. My midwife referred me to the doctor as an urgent case to discuss going on medication for the anxiety. I chose not to but it was rough.
I booked several private scans to keep an eye on things and I started to feel much better once I could feel baby move.

It's a very tough time after going through a miscarriage but take one day at a time and go to the midwife every day if you need to for a reassurance check and to hear the heart beat.

Congratulations on your pregnancy 🩵🩵🩵 such good news. I agree, if things progress I do feel I’m going to need to have reassurance scans etc. I’m with you on the anxiety, I haven’t had panic attacks though that sounds so horrendous! Miscarriage is traumatic 😔

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OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar · 14/11/2024 08:30

MummyV2021 · 13/11/2024 21:22

Firstly, congratulations!! I had an early MC and a chemical in quick succession before getting my BFP 2 months later (skipped a month of trying for my own sanity). Like someone has already said, the anxiety was real and I don't think I fully calmed down until I could feel the baby move and get some physical reassurance he was in there and active! He's now almost 3! I had early scans which would reassure me for 24 hours and then I'd go back to worrying until the next scan. It's really hard as any loss no matter how early can really affect you so just be kind to yourself and find the things that work to help you in this really exciting, confusing and uncertain time. You can drive yourself insane, but I found being open with my partner and my friends and family about my anxiety really helped. They couldn't fully understand but just having people I could offload to really helped. And using forums like this - a group of us actually set up a Facebook page where we would all share our additional testing (those magical 3+ weeks on a digital), early scans and each milestone thereafter. I found it really helped having an outlet to share anxiety and successes! Take care of yourself and try and relax as much as you can 😘

Thank you so much for your words, I think I’m struggling with the thought of being open as it’s such early days so currently only me and my husband know, but I do think the bottling it up is making it harder for me 😔 the forums are a great idea, I do find I can get swept up in Mumsnet but being able to be open on here and have you all give such kind and supportive responses means a lot! Congratulations on your little rainbow 🩵

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OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar · 14/11/2024 08:34

Objectiontime · 13/11/2024 22:34

@OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar Huge congratulations on your new pregnancy. For me things were a little different. I had an MMC followed by a Chemical 5 months later, unfortunately followed by another Chemical 4 months after that. I am now awaiting the results of some private testing. I say this not to put a downer on things. You can see the encouragement and successes above but I wanted to offer some solidarity with your worry. You are so right in that every pregnancy is different but you have absolutely no reason to think that this time wont be successful. You owe it to yourself to try and think positively. At the end of the day, what will be will be and no matter how much or how little stress we out on ourselves it wint change the result so take one day at a time, try to enjoy your pregnancy and I wish you a very happy, healthy pregnancy because those if us in these boards all want that for each other and ourselves x

Hi! Thank you for replying, it’s good to hear all sides of the story and am in solidarity with you too, what a hard time. As mentioned miscarriage is so traumatic, I think coupled with the fact pregnancy didn’t happen for me on the next cycle also was really difficult so I feel for you that you’ve had the wait between your pregnancies too. It’s such a mental thing we’re going through, and I wish I could be someone who was just relaxed but that ain’t me girl 😂 full of trepidation for this result, grateful to know it’s maybe not a fluke getting pregnant but still focusing on future and next steps. We were planning ICSI next year as we have MFI, still doing the work up for it so it doesn’t delay things if this pregnancy doesn’t work out!
sending you lots of love 🩵🩵

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Objectiontime · 14/11/2024 13:20

OneHeapedTeaspoonOfSugar · 14/11/2024 08:34

Hi! Thank you for replying, it’s good to hear all sides of the story and am in solidarity with you too, what a hard time. As mentioned miscarriage is so traumatic, I think coupled with the fact pregnancy didn’t happen for me on the next cycle also was really difficult so I feel for you that you’ve had the wait between your pregnancies too. It’s such a mental thing we’re going through, and I wish I could be someone who was just relaxed but that ain’t me girl 😂 full of trepidation for this result, grateful to know it’s maybe not a fluke getting pregnant but still focusing on future and next steps. We were planning ICSI next year as we have MFI, still doing the work up for it so it doesn’t delay things if this pregnancy doesn’t work out!
sending you lots of love 🩵🩵

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Ahh sending lots of love to you too.

Got the results back, basically high for everything they tested, including NK cells. Got to be on 25g daily of prednisone and some other tablet to protect stomach lining and have the intrippilid infusions once in each trimester next time I conceive. That’s a pretty high steroid dose but the other option was four IVIG injections at £2,000 each so we are going with the steroid and infusion option, which will be around £2100 per pregnancy but will be worth it if it sticks.
I’m concerned about my lack of immune system with the steroids as I work in a very people based environment and have no choice in that. But doc reckons either treatment should work as well as the other and I don’t have the sort of cash required for either so it will be another loan!