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Anyone have rainbow success 8+ months since loss?

20 replies

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 09/11/2024 21:07

Hi,

I am looking for some reassurance and positive stories of people who have had conceived rainbow a while after loss?

I had a MMC at 12 weeks this year with my first pregnancy. Had D&C and have TTC for 7 cycles- going into 8th. No diagnosed conditions and had no issues getting pregnant before.

Losing hope x

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Figtree11 · 10/11/2024 08:43

Hi @Hopingforrainbow2025 i am so sorry for your loss. I hope you don’t mind me joining too. I don’t have a positive story yet, but would also like to hear from others.
It’s 6 months since my last loss at 12wks with d&c. I had one before that, but managed to conceive 3 months after. Now I don’t know why I can’t get pregnant.

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 11/11/2024 20:19

I am sorry for your losses also, of course you can join as I hope someone out there will have some positive stories.
Do you mind me asking if you had a D&C for the first loss or only the second?
It plays on my mind a lot about whether it’s linked to the surgery because for me I got pregnant first month before the loss and now I’m like ‘what’s wrong?’. I see people get pregnant so quickly and wonder what’s changed for me. Saying that my periods returned, are regular- so I have no obvious answer yet x

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Figtree11 · 11/11/2024 20:33

@Hopingforrainbow2025 thank you. With my first I had medical management, and then with the second i had surgical.
I too worried about the implications from surgical, but I know lots of women on these boards have had more than one d&c with no issues. My periods aren’t normal yet, my last cycle was 46 days. But I did manage to get pregnant at the beginning of the year with irregular cycles. I just wonder sometimes if some people’s bodies take longer to get over the trauma of the loss

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 11/11/2024 21:06

Yes I have the same thought of maybe it just took my body longer to recover and then there’s only a small chance every month to conceive. I lost quite a lot of blood and became anemic afterwards so knew the first few months I felt weaker and not as healthy as I was before. My periods took about 6 months to become more ‘normal’ and bleeding to reduce.
its just so hard waiting because I now start to doubt whether everything is okay. I am going to have a GP app December to ask for hormone tests etc.
have you asked for a referral for the losses as I heard you can get referred after two x

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DoreenonTill8 · 11/11/2024 21:14

Sorry for your loss 💐 I had mc summer 2021, rainbow baby born summer 2023.

Figtree11 · 11/11/2024 21:17

@Hopingforrainbow2025 yeah it sounds like your body has been through a lot. Thats interesting about your cycles taking around 6 months to settle, as I’ve been worrying about why I’m not in a normal cycle yet, but I know it can take a while. My last loss was a partial molar pregnancy so took about 3 months for my hormones to get back to zero.

Yes luckily I’m one who has been referred to Tommys miscarriage clinic after 2. My appointment is next week. I had blood tests done ahead of it & actually found out today I have abnormal results for APS syndrome which is a blood clotting disorder & can cause recurrent miscarriage. So hopefully will get some more info on that next week.

I get it, the waiting is just horrible. When my period came the other week I was just so sad. That will be good to see the GP - I think even just feeling proactive & that you aren’t on your own with it helps

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 12/11/2024 09:28

That is good to know @DoreenonTill8 that you got your rainbow baby, sorry for your loss.
I think sometimes what makes me so angry and sad is the time lost since we would have had the baby as it feels like my life isn’t progressing.

@Figtree11 those results are interesting as that may be something they can investigate and stop happening. I’m glad things are potentially moving forward.
i do feel like it took my body months to get better as periods started off really long and heavy after MMC, different to pre loss. Now they are getting shorter and manageable. X

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Hopingforrainbow2025 · 03/07/2025 20:51

I wanted to update this for anyone who comes back to read. I fell pregnant again after 11 cycles. Sadly lost then at 10 weeks but feel slightly relieved my body was able to conceive again. Guess I will now be changing my username to Hoping for rainbow 2026!

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Figtree11 · 03/07/2025 21:03

I’m really sorry to hear of your loss @Hopingforrainbow2025 i too fell pregnant in February this year and had another miscarriage at 10 weeks too. Back to TTC it is

MudandMoet · 03/07/2025 21:37

Don’t lose hope Ladies. I had 2 MMC and now have my rainbow baby. , It took me 9 months to get pregnant the first time then MMC at 10 weeks, it then took another 10 long pain staking months to conceive again and had my second MMC at 8 weeks, it then took 9 months to conceive again and but this time I got my sticky bean. Hang in there, it will happen x

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 04/07/2025 23:02

@Figtree11
I am so sorry about your loss too. I also got pregnant Feb, lost in April at 10 weeks. Got my period back end of May and just been trying to grieve again. No idea why it happened as natural this time so no testing.
do you get any support /tests?

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Hopingforrainbow2025 · 04/07/2025 23:04

@MudandMoet thank you for sharing. I am glad you got your double rainbow baby. Can I ask did you get any medication or change anything for that pregnancy ?
I have no diagnosis or answers yet so it’s scary to think do we just roll the dice again?

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Figtree11 · 05/07/2025 08:20

Thank you @Hopingforrainbow2025 I was lucky enough to get referred to Tommys after the second loss so was under their care for this recent one. I’d had tests done with them, and I had a high marker for APS, but my second result came back normal so wasn’t treated. They told me I have pcos too. Everything else was normal. They tested the pregnancy too and it was genetically normal. So if I get pregnant again they are going to treat me as though I have APS (so blood thinning injections) but I don’t know if it will help.
It’s so hard isn’t it wondering whether it will take ages to fall pregnant again, to then deal with more loss.

Thanks @MudandMoet x

MudandMoet · 05/07/2025 10:11

@Hopingforrainbow2025 if I’m being totally honest, I was fast approaching 44 so I had all but given up hope. I’d dropped the pregnacare conception max as I was convinced it wasn’t doing anything. I was obviously tracking cycles like a mad woman (I know exactly what you’ll be going through and it is so frustrating each month) this particular month we DTD on the 7th 9th and 12th and 16th, I definitely ovulated on the 10th. It definitely takes its toll when it takes so long to get caught each time. I really hope you all have some success soon xx

JaneSmith8 · 05/07/2025 11:13

Hi,
I'm so sorry for your losses, I remember looking for posts like these while TTC as they would give me hope.
I had 3MCs before I got my rainbow 8weeks ago; I had all the tests done and there was no apparent reason that was causing them. I got referred to the RMC and was on progesterone, prednisolone, high dose folic acid, vitamin D and pregnacare and a super healthy diet - not sure if that helped but I wanted to know that I did all I could in case it failed. In my case was probably due to age (+35)
Each pregnancy took more cycles to conceive, I guess the stress and fear of more MCs wasn't helping.
I wish you all the best xx

NCembarassed · 05/07/2025 11:24

I did, but the situation was a bit unusual.

During my pg issues were found that DS had abnormally large & bright (on scans) kidneys. DH & I were tested and it turned out we were both carriers of a really rare genetic illness (albeit different gene markers). This is very rare anyway, and our consultant spent months trying to browbeat me into a termination inc natural birth - which was impossible given how large his kidneys were. He boasted another couple were in a v.similar situation and he was "going to make them see sense too". A truly horrible man.

Long story short, he was born but died nearly 2hrs later. We decided to remove him from the ventilator (his lungs were underdeveloped and he was struggling). Please, MNers no nasty comments on that, I already live with the guilt & all advice from shitty consultant and the entirety of that FMU inc his boss was that he'd die anyway (put to me in the most callous terms by that boss). They had promised palliative care, which never happened. He died in my arms, by myself - I was alone. Ex had fucked off to his family, as they insisted. Christmas Eve, as well. Champagne corks popping in the ward by families understandably celebrating (we were moved to a side room as soon as one was free).

Moving on. Ex did not want more children. I did. We agreed to try again 2yrs later. It took more than a year, but I did eventually have a successful pg. We now knew there was a 1/4 chance of a child being a 'sufferer' like DS, but that there are people born with the illness which can be managed. I found an amazing UK charity who give support and who have links with a specialist hospital. The hospital agreed I would transfer there if my baby was like DS. Terrified throughout, as cons said no point testing as I would not terminate if illness identified and scans would soon indicate if this baby had the genetic kidney issue. I had a lot of extra scans which were all ok.

I do not, and have never, judged anyone who terminates a pg. I strongly believe it's an individual's choice and should be respected. Although I did find lots of support/resources for those who wish to terminate, there was very little for those who want to continue the pg.

I did need some steroid injections before the ELCS to help baby's lung function (this is fairly routine now for ELCS births).

My youngest does have some health issues causing her to be bordering underweight all her life so far. Despite this they are fairly healthy and very happy.

I wish you all the very best. It is heart rending to have yet another miscarriage or another period when you'd hoped so much it would happen this time.

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 06/07/2025 17:39

@Figtree11
I am glad you were able to get some support. My GP said they doubt a referral will be accepted to me as I’ve ‘only’ had 2 losses so they basically seem to have put no effort in.
I keep seeing about APS- it seems to be a lot of women find out they have this so I would say it’s good if they do act like you have it as precaution.

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Hopingforrainbow2025 · 06/07/2025 17:42

@NCembarassed I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Son. I cannot see how anyone would comment on that choice as they will never be in your shoes. I do find people can be so unkind when they have never expierenced the trauma.
it sounds like you have had such a tough journey. I think the thing that is hard about loss is you are always wondering will this happen again, will this be my narrative now that I just get pregnant but lose them. I feel like until a rainbow baby comes we can never breathe easily x

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Edenmum2 · 06/07/2025 17:43

I had my DD 18 months after my second loss. It absolutely can happen x

Hopingforrainbow2025 · 06/07/2025 17:47

@JaneSmith8 I am sorry to hear of your losses but happy you have now welcomed your rainbow!
I also want to try aspirin and progesterone as I hear a lot of stories like that. I feel like it’s so unfair some of us have to walk on egg shells for 9 months and I don’t drink caffeine, I eat healthy, take no risks but yet it doesn’t work out and yet others will take substances and be fine.
i feel like people don’t talk enough about how long it can take to conceive and for me it feels random like first time was an ‘accident’ then try for 11 cycles seems just a fluke. Didn’t do anything different that month, I had tried everything all year and just felt frustrated.

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