Advice.. to conceive or not to conceive

[Hall24]

Hi everyone, so short story to it is, I have 3 children, my now fiancé has 2 children from a previous relationship, I never expected to have a big family.. my past relationship/past pregnancy’s weren’t great due to unsupportive partner who didn’t really even want the last baby and wanted me to abort. Then I met the love of my life whos shown me a love I didn’t know I’d ever find and is the most caring man, who treats my kids as his own. I call him my mr perfect.. last year my coil fell out and I was losing a lot of blood so got sent to a&e to which I shockingly found out I was pregnant (which was a miscarriage) so it was very tough feeling sad about a baby we didn’t know existed or shouldn’t have happened due to being on the coil. Ever since this has happened my fiancé has really wanted to us to have a baby of our own, i am like 90 percent sure i want this too but i keep getting in my own head thinking “how am i going to cope with 4 kids” “he’s at work 5 days of the week all day im going to be on my own” “we would have 6 kids between us that’s a lot” “everyone will think im crazy” so just asking for some advice really or if anyone else has been in a similar situation?
i am just finishing my period and we might be possibly trying this month.
maybe that wasn’t a short story after all! Haha

Only you can know if you could manage another child, it all depends on the ages of the others, are some of them old enough to be semi independent such as getting themselves to school, making their own breakfast and getting ready in the morning, able to entertain themselves for short periods of time. Also to be considered is financially can you afford another baby? Do you have space or would you need to move house? Is this something you wouldn't mind? Do you have the energy, time...etc. Could your partner reduce his hours or find a different job enabling him to help out more?

Before you consider any of the above, do you actually want another child? You don't have to have one just because your partner does, it should be a joint decision thay you both share.
Don't give a second thought to what anyone else thinks, this is your family. Besides, most people wouldn't bat an eye at 6 kids, it's not unusual really.

I think you need to think about why it is you want to be pregnant. Is it because of a sense of loss over the MC (sorry to hear btw) and something you need more time to process. Or is it because having another child is what you actually want, and you have the time and means to support another child etc. I guess there's also an element of regret that Mr perfect is not biologically related to your children and you want to create that perfect child with your Mr perfect? How would this affect your other children? Do you want another child or just want to feel pregnant again now you're happier in your relationship? Would this be a deal breaker for Mr perfect, do you feel worried about losing him over this?

I don't think either answer is the the right/wrong one. Only you can make that choice. Just trying to give you some outsider prompts/questions to help you get to a decision. And don't worry too much about what others will think, that's their problem not yours. Try to focus on your own motivations and priorities. Best of luck!