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What? No, it can't be! I need some moral support!

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Gretsetden · 24/10/2024 19:48

I've just turned 42, have small kids already but thought I'd been going through the peri menopause as my cycles were all over the place. One night recently, my husband and I woke up in the middle of the night and started having sex. We were both half asleep and when we 'woke up', we stopped.

3 days later I got ovulation pains but I didn't think anything of it, as I've been getting weird aches and pains for the past 12 months, alongside my new weird perimenopausal cycles.

Around 6 days after the ovulation pain, I got weird stretching, pulling feelings in my waist and all manner of strange poking feelings in abdomen. I suspected that I was possibly implanting.

Today, two days later at 8dpo, I took a test. I have 3 other children and got a bfp very early with them so assumed that if I had implanted 2 days ago, I'd see something.

With a 2 hour hold, I peed on the test. The window seemed like there was some kind of weird gel or moisture inside. The mositure on the inside of the window disapated and it seemed negarive, so I discarded it. 10 minutes later, I had another look and there was another faint line.

I went straight over to the shop and bought a two pack of early prediction tests. I dipped it in a sample but it was from a 30 minute hold, which is useless at 8dpo. To the naked eye, it's negative but I can see what looks like the faintest, faintest, silvery line.

I cannot wait until the morning and need to repeat the test tonight. I know you will all tell me to, but I can't.

My husband does not want any more children but I've always been open to it. Some logistical issues to worry about, and my toddler has just started sleeping through the night, we just got a new car, we were planning a big holiday next year etc. It's just a lot to get my head around if I am.

If I thought DH would be on board I'd be very excited, but I don't think he would be too happy.

Can somebody just hang out with me until I find out for sure?

What? No, it can't be! I need some moral support!
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Lila34830 · 24/10/2024 19:52

Hi OP, I can see a faint line on the top one but the bottom one looks negative to me ? ... might be worth waiting a couple of days and re test ? When is AF due ?

Gretsetden · 24/10/2024 19:58

Lila34830 · 24/10/2024 19:52

Hi OP, I can see a faint line on the top one but the bottom one looks negative to me ? ... might be worth waiting a couple of days and re test ? When is AF due ?

The second test def looks negative but i honestly can see something so, so faint it's almost in my mind, if that makes sense. Definitely can't wait another few days. I hate keeping this to myself and want to tell my husband as soon as I know for sure, if I am. I have a strange crazy desperation to know. Although we are going to an all inclusive resort next week and DH has been so looking forward to it. If I am, I don't want to spoil his trip but I can't keep it to myself if I am!

Sorry, bit of a tangent there! I'm a full week away fron my period but always for BFPs around now with the others. Have 3 kids and found out at 8, 9 and 10dpo with them. Must have short fallopian tubes haha!

Don't know why I'm telling you all of this. Just so shocked! And in a weird limbo land!

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Gretsetden · 24/10/2024 20:49

I'm going to try again tonight, before I go to bed.

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Puppupandaway · 24/10/2024 21:15

Hope you get the result you want OP.

If it is negative, might be time to have a conversation with your husband about contraception in your 40s, especially if he's not keen on more children.

Good luck.

HoneyMustard · 24/10/2024 21:29

Keep us updated OP but make sure you save a test for first thing in the morning as that will your best chance. I've just saved your image and tried inverting it in my photoshop app (I did this with my own tests in the v early days). Def something there on the top one but nothing on the bottom.

Gretsetden · 25/10/2024 05:27

I did another test last night with a 3 hour hold. A weird white line came up at once and stayed there. This morning it has left a very faint grey second line. I've peed into a cup to test later, after work. It's very concentrated so I'm thinking it will be better. Kicking myself I didn't leave any tests for now but actually this limbo land is giving me lots of space for brain experiments.

I woke up and my first instinct was hoping I'm actually not pregnant and that I'd just flooded the first test. Honestly it would be happy news if I felt my husband was happy but he won't be.

He takes care of contraception and get the condoms. He is usually insistent he wears them. That night was kind of a once off. I wanted to continue but he is the one that stopped things. We were both half asleep and it was a genuine slip up. He is so adamant about preventing another pregnancy and I actually feel sad for him that he has tried so hard to prevent it and his one moment of weakness may have led to what he has been trying to avoid.

I will keep you all updated later.

Attached is last night's weird test.

What? No, it can't be! I need some moral support!
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Gretsetden · 25/10/2024 05:27

HoneyMustard · 24/10/2024 21:29

Keep us updated OP but make sure you save a test for first thing in the morning as that will your best chance. I've just saved your image and tried inverting it in my photoshop app (I did this with my own tests in the v early days). Def something there on the top one but nothing on the bottom.

Thank you x

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creamandcookies2 · 25/10/2024 09:18

It looks negative to me OP. I'm wondering if it's an evaporation line you saw, they are usually white or grey. Or maybe it's just to early to test, I hope you get the result you want.

Gretsetden · 25/10/2024 11:55

creamandcookies2 · 25/10/2024 09:18

It looks negative to me OP. I'm wondering if it's an evaporation line you saw, they are usually white or grey. Or maybe it's just to early to test, I hope you get the result you want.

I'm thinking that. It just appeared at once which I thought was odd. I'll update later.
I am veering towards hoping I'm not but I'll cross that bridge if I am.

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Gretsetden · 25/10/2024 14:41

I've got a test and on my way home. Should I use the sample from this morning or try to hold my pee for another few hours? The sample was v concentrated.

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Gretsetden · 25/10/2024 15:07

Ok, tested with my radioactive FMU using an early detection test, and it's a bfn. The two lines threw me yesterday, but i think it was from flooding the test. If there had been enough hcg in my body to show a positive on a short afternoon hold on 8dpo, it would have come up using the very concentrated sample on 9dpo.

My over whelming feeling is relief! I know my husband would really struggle with a fourth and it would put a huge strain on us as he is very against having more. I also feel like my period is coming, so think it was all a (very useful) false alarm!

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Puppupandaway · 25/10/2024 18:20

What a relief for you. Maybe time to have the vasectomy talk...then you can have sex in the middle of the night with no repercussions!

creamandcookies2 · 25/10/2024 19:35

Yes, maybe a wake up call to get contraception sorted! if that's what you definitely want.

Gretsetden · 26/10/2024 09:43

Thanks ladies. I just took the 4 tests that I did over those 2 days out of their hiding place so I could bin them.

The 1 that developed a clear, pink second line within the ten minute mark, but had seemed to have got wet under the plastic cover, was still showing a clear but faint positive.

The one that had a second line within the time that I could only see with some kind of internal mental sensor, has now developed into a squinter.

The one that turned the test strip white as soon as I took the test, has a faint line (grey). The three tests weren't the same brand.

The test I took yesterday with fmu was a stark negative, and is still negative (another brand again).

I'm sure it's a random combination of flooding tests and getting evaps, but it was quite startling to be holding three pregnancy tests that each had some kind of second line.

With my last child, the test was a clear negative until 12 hours later. I thought it was an evap but I actually was pregnant.

We're going on holidays to our all inclusive resort and for now, I'm going to assume that the negative test I got yesterday is the most recent, up to date and accurate result and the others were 3 weird anomalies on the day.

My period is due next week so I'll be Sally Sensible and await my period like a good girl!

Ps my husband got an injury in his groin and has constant trouble with it. He doesn't want to have a vasectomy until it has healed. He does want to get it done at a certain point but says he just wants the tenderness in that area to pass first. He normally won't come near me without a condom and always buys them and is very diligent about wearing them. This was just one slip up and now, I'll be a lot more on board with doing what I can on my side.

If I don't update, I'm not pregnant!
Thanks again!

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Gretsetden · 29/10/2024 19:09

Got my period! Case closed!

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Puppupandaway · 29/10/2024 19:33

What a relief for you!! Thanks for the update!

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