Give up? TTC age 40

[Sara1003]

Honest answers please. Should I give up? Age 40 TTC, 3 months trying, early loss this year after 5 months of trying. Since then late ovulation day 16 and shortish lutual phase of 11 days. Thanks.

After three months? No. After three years? Maybe.

Have you any other children ? Three months is not that long OP I tried for 2 years and had my now DD at 37 . I'm sorry for loss x

I'm 38 and been trying 18 months with two losses along the way. I know what you're saying and do you know what, I do agree with giving up in the sense of just letting it all go and leave it up to fate. Don't stress 'trying' just live your life as if it might not happen and let it suprise you. These things really do tend to happen when we least expect it, I'm trying to remember that! x

3 months?! That barely even starting and well within the realms of normal if it hasn't happened. As other have said then maybe if it was 3 years then give up but 3 months is very quick for throwing in the towel

I'm 39, been trying for nearly 2 years, had 2 losses last year and have just found out I'm pregnant again, about 10 months since last loss. 3 months is nothing. Perhaps really think if you want a child, could this be your subconscious saying it's not what you really want if you are prepared to give up so quickly?

It's good to hear that you think keep trying. After the initial loss and then another 3 months ttc coupled with potential cycle issues and rubbish post 40 stats of 5% chance per month was beginning to feel a bit disheartened. Thanks.

I think it's worth continuing if you're up to it. I had a m/c at 12 weeks just before I turned 40 and almost gave up. But I fell pregnant again almost a year later had had my first and only child at almost 42.

Good luck, I know hard hard it is.

If it's what you really want keep going. It is hard, I tried for 2 years to conceive my first and a couple of losses along the way. Finally had him at 39 and now pregnant with my second at 41 (a test of trying). I nearly gave up because it was so difficult and I was in pieces each month but really felt like my family wasn't complete. So pleased I kept going but it is a difficult road. Can you put a time span on it to relieve some pressure? Like we will give it 9 months/a year then reconsider?

Have you got other children? If so, you know your body can carry a pregnancy and any early mcs are very likely old eggs.

If you have a history of difficulties with conceiving or early (or late) losses, your chances of carrying a baby to term are very low.

At 40 though, 3 months is nothing!!! I already had healthy babies born pre 35yrs. Then tried again at 38 - miscarriage after miscarriage (at least 4 early losses confirmed by scan but maybe more as i got so used to skipping periods and then having very heavy bleeds, i just never bothered doing pg testing in the end)

And then - at 40 - suddenly i was 10 weeks pg! Expecting a heavy bleed but none came. That pg went to term and dd is now 17 yrs old and healthy.

I was convinced something was wrong with all my losses but it really was old eggs. It is hard though to carry on going and going. That's why we just stopped testing in the end. And i didn't want to know it was yet another mc - just thinking of it as a heavy period helped me.

Good luck!!

Just wishing you the very best of luck. You just never know! Don't get caught up in the statistics, don't obsess too much, just go on with your normal life with your fingers casually crossed.

We've been trying to conceive for 12 months, had one chemical in that time but now 6 weeks pregnant. I'm also 40. I think keep going provided it is the right thing to do for you. You'll know what's best for you and your body.

Op just an fyi I tried for 2 years after an initial loss finial conceived at 36 and now have my DD at 37 but it turned out my DP have very low sperm morphology that was our problem once we knew that he was able to turn that around and get a normal sample within 3 months we conceived naturally literally as I was starting my first round of IVF , it's a very simple test for him but I always urge anyone ttc especially those who let's say don't have time to waste go get checked especially the man they are so often over looked and it is just assumed it must be the woman if there is something wrong at all that is

I’m 40 and due date this weekend, and my 43 year old friend gave birth to a healthy baby girl a month ago. Good luck!

I'm nearly 36, my pregnancies have taken 2.5 years, 6 months and 9 months (all ended in missed miscarriage). We're trying again until July then probably calling it as it's draining.
In the greater scheme of TTC you've not been trying that long really, but only you know when it's become too much or you've reached the end of your journey. If I were you I would still carry on trying for some time yet.

My ovulation was around cycle day 19, short luteal phase of 8-9 days and I had several chemical pregnancies before I got pregnant with my son, it took nearly a year total of trying. I was 31 when he was born. I wouldn't give up yet in your shoes

I would give it until 41st birthday assuming general good health.

I gave myself until my 40th (i was lucky and was actually heavily pregnant by my birthday 🎂)
However 2nd pregnancy was much rougher on my body and i just could not in good conscience do a third... i am just too old! ☹️