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Confused, pregnancy loss?

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PursuitOfHappiness3 · 15/10/2024 10:25

Hello everyone,

Just a little info before I get to my question.

Me and my partner had been TTC since July. On October 1st I got my BFP (although VFL) the day before my period was due (11dpo). I couldn't believe it, a few days leading up to this i had all the symptoms that my period was on the way, I was so sure of it I told my partner we were out that month. I took several pregnancy tests over 10 days and saw the line getting darker. These tests included first response, clear blue digital, and the Amazon cheapie test strips.
Yesterday morning 14th October I noticed light pinky red blood on the toilet paper. I googled and it said it is most likely normal spotting for 5w5d pregnant. I decided to see how it goes. A couple of hours later I noticed more, so I called my GP who told me to go to A&E to get checked out.
At A&E they told me to do a urine sample to confirm the pregnancy before they did anything else. Whilst waiting for the results to come back, I went to the toilet again and this time the blood was deep red. The nurse told me that the pregnancy test came back negative. My heart is broken. How could I have a positive test just a couple of days ago and now nothing?
It is my first baby, first pregnancy so I don't know what happened. They just said it was negative, like it never existed. Im so confused, I don't know if this would be called a chemical pregnancy or an early miscarriage?
I don't know why, but today I tested my LH level and got a positive on an OPK. I've read that it could be picking up HCG, but how can it if the test was negative in the hospital yesterday? I don't know why I tested, I need to heal and let my body down it's thing now.
Sorry for the rant, I don't even know exactly what I'm asking. Only there's nowhere else for me to get this off my chest.
I just feel so empty now.

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TopshopCropTop · 15/10/2024 10:38

I’m so sorry you are going through this, it is so devastating. I have been unfortunate enough to be in your position many many times. There will still be hormones in your body after a loss, it can take a few weeks for your cycle to return to normal.

OPKs are not a reliable detector of HCG. The most reliable detector of HCG is a pregnancy test.

I would put all of the tests away and give your mind and your body time to heal. You will have so many complex thoughts and feelings right now, know that is this completely normal.

This is a particularly terrible time to go through miscarriage as today is the end of baby loss awareness week so you will also probably see loads of baby loss stuff online. I would try and avoid the internet today.

sending you love And healing OP.

Northerngirl89 · 15/10/2024 10:39

I'm so sorry you've been through this and haven't had any answers or clarity. I've been in your shoes three times and it's horrendous. You have all my empathy and sympathy.

It does get easier. But let yourself grieve and heal x

ThatSnugSwan · 15/10/2024 10:43

Im so sorry your going through this, its such a horrible tough time. I went through the same in August and I just couldnt believe it was happening to me. I hope you will be ok. You need to rest and heal now, sending virtual hugs x

Pennyroses · 15/10/2024 10:50

@PursuitOfHappiness3 I'm so sorry, I went through this exact same thing last month and it's just awful 😢 I too tested positive at 10/11 dpo and the lines got darker each day and I had two positive digital tests. I then did another test at 14 dpo and the test line was lighter and then even lighter at 15 dpo. I knew it wasn't good because my symptoms faded too. I started bleeding at 16 dpo 🙁 that was on the 10th September and I'm still waiting for my next period, I think the hormones must have thrown this cycle off as I ovulated later than normal x

PursuitOfHappiness3 · 15/10/2024 11:02

Thank you so much for your kind replies. And I'm so sorry to hear of so many going through similar experiences, you really don't know how many people are affected by this until you open up about it.
I just feel so lost, like the baby existed to us, but not to anyone else because the test at the hospital was just negative :'(
I think the best advice I can take is to focus on the now, on healing and grieving my loss. I am hopeful that good things will be on the horizon for us soon xx

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