TTC Baby 1 looking for support .. Did anyone take a while to conceive baby number 1? ❤️

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Hello everyone I’m hoping to get a bit of support as I don’t have anyone to talk to I am feeling down and struggling to stay positive I have a long term partner we tried for a baby for 6 months at 18 / 6 months at 22 and now we are 24 moving onto cycle 2 of trying this month I thought I had implantation bleeding I started spotting at 7dpo for a few days but AF has actually shown up four days early which has never happened before I have had a good cry and rant to DH however I’m surrounded by pregnancies and people having an easy time getting pregnant and although I’m happy for them I feel heartbroken that that’s isn’t me 💔

I have regular periods and I get a bit of ovulation pain so I’m quite sure I’m ovulating, I’ve had scans which doctors have said there’s no indication to say I would struggle to conceive I’m booked in fertility blood tests this month too just looking for people in the same boat or if it took anyone else a while to conceive baby 1 ❤️

Sorry if this sounds blunt, I know it can be difficult. But I think what a lot of people don't realise is its actually quite easy to do the conception part, the difficult part is getting it to a stage where the body thinks its viable and not reject it.

In other words, a lot of women mistake an early miscarriage for their period, which is why you shouldn't test early.

Try to relax about it. My suggestion is plenty of protein and healthy fats 😊

You're definitely not alone - in total I've been TTC my first for 4.5 years and also had a 2.5 year gap in the middle of that. I've had 3 missed miscarriages. It's tough to keep going when everything feels against you. I've always had regular periods, all tests and scans are totally normal so no reason that has shown why it's so difficult for us x

I had a few chemicals before my first; but, I only knew they were chemicals because I was testing far too early, I look back on it & really wish I'd have just waited until the day of expected AF; I really would've saved myself so much sadness and stress - which I genuinely believe made it harder.

Anyway, I successfully fell pregnant with my 1st after 6m of trying.
My advice would be to eat as though you're already pregnant (healthily) but don't live like you are. Have that glass of wine, drink that coffee, eat that cured meat - don't do anything different until you get that BFP ... I know it's easier said than done but try to relax.
Laugh with your partner, your friends, watch that comedy ... Goodluck 🫶

It took us 14 years to conceive... He's sat eating his dinner now. I recommend giving up trying and making other plans, it worked for us!

Oh my word I honestly could've written this post myself. I've just turned 32 and we have been TTC for 12 months now. I am surrounded by pregnancies - both at work and in my personal life and whilst I'm obviously very happy for them I feel miserable and spend most days when AF comes around crying. I can totally relate and if you ever want anyone to talk to please PM me ❤️

We've had all the tests and everything is normal so will keep going. I'm hopeful that it will happen eventually but it's just HARD. I wish more people would talk about the challenges they have trying to conceive as it's so common. For now I'm going to eat soft cheese and drink wine and enjoy it!

You'll hear this again and again and again and I'm sorry to just repeat but when we were ttc the stress of it was probably what stopped us getting pregnant. Carried on but stopped tracking as much, had fun with it and went on holiday and it finally happened for us.

Again, sorry you'll probably hear this again and again and be like "I can't relax!" but even if you don't think you can be as relaxed as we ended up being (which was a bit of "fuck it, this clearly isn't happening!") then at least try and practise doing relaxing things for yourself to make the whole thing a little less stressful and more enjoyable.

Professor Robert Winston once did a great interview that stated that most people trying to conceive simply aren't having enough sex. Stop tracking and obsessing about timeframes and just have a few months having sex at least 4-5 times a week.

Hello ladies

I finally got my BFP and at 9w 3d I have lost my bub 💔

I can’t describe the pain I just don’t know how to cope

saw your message and couldn’t ignore it - sending love ❤️❤️❤️

Thankyou lucy it means the world ❤️

Sorry to hear that OP. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and I went on to have more children. Go easy on yourself.