I think DH maybe ready to submit to DC number 4 however he has had a vasectomy

[KatieDD]

has anyone else conceived after a reversal ?
Just worried because I don't think it'll be available on the NHS although they were bloody quick enough to do it, without any consultation with me or cooling off period (our DD was 7 weeks old when he had it done, I'm still quite about it but anyway.
It was done 4 years ago, if that makes a difference, fingers crossed.

Gosh I'm surprised they gave him the op so soon after the birth of your child.
A friend of mine tried to get it done when their 3rd baby was 6 months old and the GP made them wait until the youngest was 1 year before he referred him.

I don't know if it's possible to reverse it, but how frustrating for you.

I do feel like writing to somebody but when I mention it to DH (always in the heat of an argument) he says it's his body therefore why should I have a say, but equally he admits he'd have divorced me if I'd aborted one of his DC's without discussing it with him.
well as long as it all comes good in the end, but I suspect I'll be paying £2.5k for a reversal that could be spent on better things.

Ah but if it works and you have baby no.4 then it'll be the best 2 grand ever spent

Good luck!

a reversal is possible - a friend of mine had the snip during his first marriage - divorced, married a younger woman who wanted kids, reversed op, 6 months later, preggers.

Hi Katie DD I am in a similar position. My DH had a vasectomy 6 months after the birth of our only child against my wishes.To cut a long story short We nearly split and he decided to get it reversed ....2 and a half grand later we were told that he now only has a 40 percent chance of me acheiving a pregnancy as the original vasectomy was so badly done (i.e they cut out about 30 cm of tube when they only need remove an inch) and the scarring etc was so bad that on one side they had to do a vas to vas (i.e connect the end of the tube directly to the testicle)....so we started TTC (I am 32 btw) and it now looks like like i am not ovulating either ......POOP! So am undergoing tests (or I will be when my period finally arrives - am on day41 and no sign and not pregnant) so things not looking too rosy atm.

sorry this is prob not much help for you but I can really understand how you feel and will keep all my fingers (but not legs crossed for you

Oh pinkmook, I hope it works out for you, I do feel greedy wanting the 4th when people are longing for number 2.
I hope to god they didn't make the same mistake with my DH I shall go nuts, I'm definately ovulating although my periods are irregular, god i'm panicing now, it actually hadn't crossed my mind that we might not get a baby

KatieDD - Oh I am so sorry didn't mean to panic you I dont think it matters that much how many you have already as thats not the point is it - people who have none say I should be happy I have one - and of course - I am but I still long for another - I never imagined my life would turn out this way

I really hope you get number 4 too....it feels like a member of my family is missing...thats the only way I can describe how it feels...its not like I am not grateful for my DS but I feel like one of us is missing

Am trying to force my head to accept it just may never happen...its the little bit of hope that kills me off every month on the 2ww when I think...maybe just maybe....then I'm not

arrrggggh its poop must stay positive

Oh huni, how do you cope with that within the relationship ?
I mean when I say my H is ready to agree, it's still not 100% probably nearer 60% and too be honest I don't think I can stay with him if he doesn't, not because I want another child more than him but because he made such a huge decision affecting my future without consulting me, it's kind of a case of put it right or shove off really, but what if he can't put it right ? Am panicing a lot now

"Oh huni, how do you cope with that within the relationship ?"

Errm not sure! actually finding it really hard at times - feel really overwhelmingly resentful and angry sometimes. But I have told DH this and he just says "what can I do now apart from what Ive done and am doing?" (i.e getting the reversal, talks about us getting tests for fertility sooner rather than later and reassuring me he will find a way to pay for IVF if all else fails)

It sscary isnt it? I sometomes cant believe he made a decision like that but he says he saw it as the only way to ensure I didn't get pregnant again (as he was really traumatised by it all and I suffered with PND)

Good Luck to you I really hope you get number 4 - keep your fingers crossed for my No2!
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I will keep everything but my legs crossed
I'll keep an eye out for your announcement !