Waited too long?

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So I'm 37, been trying to conceive about 2 and a half years. The last 9 months or so we've been using ovulation sticks, seem to get a surge each month ( I know it's not a guarantee of ovulation) and dtd leading upto and the day after. Ive got a tracking app but find this a bit hit and miss as my cycle can vary between 24 and 27 days. Partner has also started taking wellman conception vitamins. I've been taking folic acid and vitamin D for months but we haven't had any sign of a bfp. I've been accepting of this but it's at the point that everyone around us is getting pregnant. I'm happy for them of course but it makes it harder each month when we're unsuccessful and they're saying this and that worked for us. And it feels like we're running out of things to try.

Have you had any fertility tests?

Have you spoken to your gp?

Hugs. It's the worst. Go to the doctor's and get a referral put in (NHS wait for fertility is about a year 😭) they should do a full suite of bloods for you and sperm testing for your partner.

There's no pain quite like it and if you've never been in the situation you don't know what it's like.

Try not to blame yourself too.

Depending on where you're based and the guidelines in your area, after 2 1/2 years I would make an appt with your GP to discuss possible referral to a fertility clinic for tests.

We've not been to the GP yet no, but it might have to be the next step. Just never expected it to take this long :-(

Hi OP,

Hugs to you. I am TTC my second and it hasn't happened in nearly a year, one miscarriage in between that. Although I already have a child this whole ttc business has affected me so much and everyone around me is having a baby so honestly you have my empathy xx

It definitely isn't too late! I am 37 too and know plenty of women who have had babies into their forties. I recently paid for fertility blood tests through Thriva. You can purchase the boxes in Superdrug and post it off. Either finger prick or you can book to have blood drawn. £99 and peace of mind for me that one area was ticked off. I have also had some internal scans to check. That was during my miscarriage at the early pregnancy unit but I would of paid for it privately if I hadn't had it done that way. Obviously not presuming your financal situation but I definitely do it if you can! Xx

You definitely haven't waited too long - I had my first at 37 and pregnant with second at 41.

Could can struggle at any age unfortunately. Definitely go and see your GP, maybe get a referral to get some tests done and then you can think about the next steps.

Good luck

Sorry you’re going through this; it took us a long time TTC and the pain is something I never expected. It’s disappointment mixed with grief but also feeling pressured to feel hopeful for next cycle. It’s crushing and it sounds like friends are well meaning but what worked for them might be totally different to what works for you. I also think people put a lot of emphasis on “this is what we did the cycle we got BFP” and really who knows if it’s that the made a difference.
Book in to see your GP and start getting things looked into.
Ignore if not for you, but to help my mental health I set myself a challenge to do something physically demanding I wouldn’t do when pregnant as it helped me feel proud of myself which counteracted that monthly defeated feeling - also as it was fitness related made me feel proud of my body and its achievement.

Agree with the posters above, book a gp visit.
also have you tried natural cycles bbt monitoring? A temperature rise confirms ovulation, whilst LH levels can rise but ovulation is not confirmed without temperature rising

Hello, first off, big hugs! It's the worst thing waiting so long for something you want so much 😓 I took 3 years to conceive our first and we were the same - always dtd around ovulation and I didn't even have a sniff of a BFP almost 3 years to the day I finally fell much to my surprise. When we started trying for number 2 we decided to get tested and whereas my partner had perfect swimmers, I have low quality eggs which is why I struggled to conceive. I started trying when I was 32. I'm now just about to turn 39 and almost 2 years into trying for number 2. I would definitely recommend getting tested - both of you - then if there's an issue that can be worked on you can start now. I wish you all of the luck in the world and I really hope that it happens for you soon ❤️

Thanks guys, I do think a visit to the GP is the next step. My mum always got pregnant easily, having my sister at 38 so it just shows. I do try to find some positive in the situation and find things to do that I couldn't if pregnant. It is hard to plan too far ahead though.

I just had my first in july at 38. Its definitely not too late. Would like to hope I can have another