14 dpo bfn is there still hope ?

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Hi all , I hope someone can give me a little bit more insight and baby dust

I am currently 14 dpo I tested this morning and got a bfn

At 6dpo I had severe sharp twangs and stabbing pain on and off in the same spot in my right side near my groin area

Since 6dpo I've had cramping which died down and I get the occasional ache and cramp daily on and off
I have been more tired and less motivated
My boobs have been tender to touch I felt like a sudden pain in the right boob quickly
And today my left boob felt itchy

Af was due today but hasn't arrived

Am I out or is there still some hope of a bfp in the next few days ?

I hope to hear soon 🥺🥺 xx

Stress can cause your period to be late and you sound extremely stressed out over this.
I think you need to accept your out this month and work on trying (literally) for next month.

I’m a bit all over the place too this month. I have PCOS, but my cycles are usually quite regular give a day or two.
My last two cycles have been 31 days exactly. This month I’m on day 36. This is quite late for me really. I had light bleeding yesterday (would have been 14dpo according to my tracking app - had EWCM at the right times) and I thought, ‘ah yeah, this has to be it’ - but now it has stopped. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I had a negative pregnancy test on Friday.
I’m going to give it until say Wednesday and see what happens. TTC is a nightmare!
I have one fallopian tube too after having surgery for ruptured ectopic in March, so I’m not hopeful I can get pregnant naturally anyway.

Basically, there is no such thing as a 'late' period. Mensturation occurs a fixed number or days after ovulation - for myself it is 13 days. So if I ovulate on day 15 of my cycle, (and let's just say that's the 15th of August) my period will be due on day 28 of my cycle (28th August in this example). Now if ovulation is late, or at least later then it generally is, I might ovulate on day 20, the 20th August. My period is then due cycle day 33 - 2nd September.

If I hadn't tracked ovulation (as you hadn't) I would be assuming my period was late on the 28th August, wheras in reality it's not even due til the 2nd September.

And so, the period is never late - but the ovulation can be. Your period will always arrive around 10 -16 days after ovulation (varies woman to woman).

If you did not track ovulation, it's impossible for you to know how many DPO you are, or when to expect your period.

You might even be due to ovulate today, which would then potentially lead to a positive test in two weeks time. However, if that were to happen, that doesn't mean you've been pregnant since 16th august (when you believed you were ovulating). Your pregnancy would likely be dated by your last menstrual period, and doctors would assume from that that you DID conceive around the 16th - but after a scan it would be too small and they would realise you actually conceived around the 9th September.

I really hope that makes sense to you. There's nothing wrong with a long cycle if it's not every month. The only other alternative is that this month you have not, and will not, ovulate. If this is the case you'll likely still have a small bleed and then go again. This is called an anovulatory cycle, and again, as a one off, is not a concern.

I just want to add to this just for clarification as I think it's an interesting topic.

What you say is usually the case but some things can impact the length of the luteal phase - including clearly progesterone supplements but also some supplements, perimenopause and extreme stress or illness.

(Not aimed at you MocktailMe) TTC is emotionally difficult, I agree with not giving false hope but we can be empathetic. I prefer to know the stats and the research, I prefer to be prepared for various outcomes, I find that comforting but that's not the case for everyone. We can be direct without being mean or cruel

Best of luck OP, my cycle was 4 days longer last month and even those 4 days got my hopes up so I completely understand. It's such a difficult time, look after yourself and do speak to your GP if you have any concerns - they will understand