Conception and cycle advice much appreciated!

[Jarusi]

Hi,

I'm confused about my cycle and any help or advice would be welcome.

I am 29 female and trying to conceive. I have only been trying for 2 cycles, so early days. In my last cycle I tracked my ovulation and made sure to try on the right days. My period was late and I had breast tenderness and mild cramping. So I tested on the first day after missed period - negative. I tested again 5 and 8 days after missed period - both negative.

Clearly not pregnant at this point so seems I've just missed a period this month.

I have a very regular cycle and haven't missed a period for years. I am not unsure of when to try again. My period is now 11 days late. Is it worth trying again after a missed period or do I need to wait until after my period comes again?

The negative results were disappointing of course but now I am just focussed on trying again. So it's frustrating that I don't have a period to go by for my next cycle.

Can anyone help a girl out?

Thanks!

Unfortunately, until you have a period, we won't know when your new cycle will start. And therefore won't know roughly when to start LH resting for the next cycle.

We also don't know when you ovulated this cycle, or if you ovulated (LH peaks only predict ovulation they do not confirm it). Are you temping? Did you get a rise or drop in BBT?

You could keep testing, and try to have regular sex in the meantime once every couple of days in case it's an extremely long cycle and you're in the FW, but realistically that's unlikely.

I hope your period comes soon and you can hit that next cycle.

I've always hated when my cycle is long and I'm not pregnant. If I'm not testing positive, the least my body can do us restart the cycle ASAP so I can try again.

I think sometimes our bodies know when we want to start TTC, and starts playing tricks! A similar thing happened to me on my 2nd or 3rd cycle of trying, I’m normally 28-31 days, but that cycle was over 40. All other cycles have been back to the 28-31. Even though it’s early days, your body might be picking up on some slight stress levels, or the disappointment from the first cycle. Keep an eye on it, if it’s not normal for you to miss periods or have irregular periods, make a GP appointment if your next 2 cycles are irregular also. I’d say just have sex every 2-3 days until you get your next period to cover all bases, and then start tracking again from that point. Try and up the self care just in case stress is having an impact - if you are taking pregnancy vitamins like proceive or Pregnacare etc these can also delay periods in some women. Travel, illness, and exercise/diet changes can also delay periods. Best of luck x

Hi @Tintinuviel,

Thank you so much! This is super helpful, I just needed some clarity on this.

I haven't been temping, just used ovulation test kits. I know that something people do and I will start doing that next cycle as well.

Yes! Exactly that, when I got the negative results I was oh well, let's go with the next cycle. But it's frustrating to have negative tests and also no next cycle!

Anyway, I really appreciate the advice. There's definitely more for me to think about next time 😊

Hi @Ksh5460,

Thank you so much. That's is also really helpful to know.

I hadn't really thought about the stress aspect of it. But that's so true, I've definitely been more stressed and it's vicious cycle once my period is late.

It's definitely unusual for me to miss a period and I usually have a 30-31 days cycle like clockwork. So I will be sure to get a doctor's opinion if it carries on.

I will definitely take both of your advice on having sex in the meantime just in case I do ovulate.

Thanks so much for your insights! 😊